Hey! So....I was wondering for those of you who have done family bed, nurse/rock to sleep, etc. from the beginning...at what age were your children able to fall asleep on their own? DD 7 and DS almost 5 sleep in a combination of their own beds and our bed (i.e. they usually start in their own beds, but are always welcome to come in our bed if and when they want to.)
With DS, we read to him & lay with him until he is nearly asleep (usually a 1/2 hour all told). Lately we've been leaving when he is still slightly more awake & letting him drift off on his own.
With DD - we used to do the same, but as she has gotten older, she wants to read to herself for awhile before bed. This is fine...what's not fine is the million trips downstairs because she doesn't want to stay up there (not scared - just bored), singing loudly in her bed, and general inability to settle down to sleep. We have tried many things (warm milk, Natural Calm magnesium stuff, soothing music, books on cd, guided meditation, fan/white noise, other bedtime rituals) and things were going well for awhile but now going down hill again....she doesn't fall asleep until we come up to bed at 10. This is too late since she has to get up for school by 6:45!!
Any suggestions for helping kids with a tough time getting to sleep transition to "self-soothing"? I hate when people expect babies to do that, but at 7 I'd like to help her learn how to relax herself & feel like I've used up what I know to do!