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post #21 of 37
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eyesroll.gif indeed! I have never heard of someone having a graduation gift registry for college, let alone high school.



 


I think a lot of stores promote their registries for various different events, and then people - especially young ones - think those are events where a registry is expected, because it's being advertised, yk?

 

i find the whole registry thing very alien, anyway. I've never registered, anywhere. When I got married the first time, I compiled a list of what we had and what we didn't, and gave it to my mom. If people asked what we needed, she told them from the list. When I married dh, we only had two weeks from deciding on a wedding date until the actual wedding, so the whole thing was quite informal. People brought gifts based on what they felt were good consumables and/or things that my ex had probably taken with him (lots of linens, a few new frying pans).

post #22 of 37

Depends on the relationship. I have several nieces and nephews and I am really close to some, but not others. For their hs graduations in the past I gave $50 with exception to my oldest newphew who received $200 because he also turned 18 the week before and also finished his eagle scout which was a large honor. We also didnt have kids at  the time, both of us had good jobs, and we also spent many events and time with him growing up so of course we were proud! When he married a few years back, I also gave him $250 which I know the young couple needed. But again, we are directly involved in their life.

 

I have another favorite nephew (I am his favorite aunt btw...;>) and he will graduate hs next year. He will also get a larger check than some of his cousins or other family members. No one knows this but his parents and him and us. Thankfully he is an only child so no predcident is started. But again I am in his life and will also tour colleges with him this summer.

 

College grads- $100 or again  more depending on the situation.

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I think a lot of stores promote their registries for various different events, and then people - especially young ones - think those are events where a registry is expected, because it's being advertised, yk?

 

Yes, that makes sense. I've just never heard of kids registering for gifts for HS graduation. It seems weird, but marketing is a powerful tool. Suggest it's the norm, and soon it will be!

 

i find the whole registry thing very alien, anyway. I've never registered, anywhere.

 

There's just something that smacks of entitlement about registries that kind of rubs me the wrong way. I know some people like them because they take out the guesswork, but meh. I shop off them occasionally, but the whole registry thing just feels icky to me.

 

post #24 of 37

The last graduation party I went to was for the son of a friend. I didn't really know the kid, had just run into them a few times at their house. I gave $20 cash.

 

Forgot to add: this was two years ago.

post #25 of 37

If we are actually attending the party, I make up a "college survival kit" that has some laundry detergent, a laundry bag, first aid kit, a few rolls of quarters, some unbreakable dishes and microwave friendly food, along with a card and a gift card to Target or Walmart.  I put it all in a small Rubbermaid container.

 

If we don't attend, I send between $50-$100, depending on the relationship.

post #26 of 37
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Originally Posted by FiveLittleMonkeys View Post

If we are actually attending the party, I make up a "college survival kit" that has some laundry detergent, a laundry bag, first aid kit, a few rolls of quarters, some unbreakable dishes and microwave friendly food, along with a card and a gift card to Target or Walmart.  I put it all in a small Rubbermaid container.

 

If we don't attend, I send between $50-$100, depending on the relationship.


Ditto this. 

 

post #27 of 37
Man, I should have held a graduation party for my kid! I totally didn't even know this was a thing... wonder if it's too late? wink1.gif Of course, most of our friends are starving grad students, so it may not have worked anyway...
post #28 of 37

I might add, I give that amount for friends and family. But we moved into our new neighborhood one week and our new friendly neighbor watchd us knock down our house for the first few weeks during our inital remodel. He saw us with no kitchen and invited us to his son's hs graduation party the following day and so we could meet the other neighbors. We were thrilled, got a hot meal and met a lot of our new neighbors who are friends of ours now. I gave the son $25 in a card. His mother said there was no need to bring a gift but they had been so nice to us, so I did.

post #29 of 37
I would give between $25 and $50. I would give them more if it was a close relationship and I knew the kid was planning on paying for their own college / vocational school.

I grew up in a family where HS graduation was expected and anything less was unacceptable. Graduation from college was worthy of a celebration but not high school. I'm sure that has something to do with how I view HS graduations today.
post #30 of 37

we cant afford much so i do 20.00

post #31 of 37
$20 for an acquaintance
$50 for neices and nephews


However, Im under thirty and not in great shape financially, so I cant imagine anyone would expect any more from us.
post #32 of 37

I gave $50 to my best friend's son last year.  It turns out his girlfriend was expecting and I kind of wish I'd made it more like $150.

(Eek!  My best friend from high school is a GRANDmother, but that's another story).

Most people gave me $20-50 when I graduated 25 yrs ago (high income family friends, though).

post #33 of 37

I gave $50 to my best friend's son last year.  It turns out his girlfriend was expecting and I kind of wish I'd made it more like $150.

(Eek!  My best friend from high school is a GRANDmother, but that's another story).

Most people gave me $20-50 when I graduated 25 yrs ago (high income family friends, though).

post #34 of 37

I would give $25 to a good friend of my child, $50-$75 to a best friend of my child, and probably $150-$200 for my niece or nephews. Oh and probably $50-$75 to my best friends child.

 

ETA: We couldn't afford to do this now, so it is a good thing my children are 5 and 2! I certainly hope to be in a better financial situation when they are in older as I'll be working again at that time.

post #35 of 37



I would have given more to the child paying his way through college.Why give the rich kid more when he is covered financially by his family?

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 The child we are giving more to comes from a very wealthy family and is paying none of her own college expenses.  The boy from the other family is paying for all of his expenses so my husband feels we should just go ahead and send him more too (we have not seen him since he was 3 and have not kept in touch with his mother). 



 

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I would have given more to the child paying his way through college.Why give the rich kid more when he is covered financially by his family?



 



We ended up giving them both the same amount. 

We originally considered giving different amounts because we are good friends with the family of the 'rich kid' and are still in contact with their family.  We have not seen the other child or his family in 16 years.  Actually, I heard later that the mother of the second child didn't even remember sending us an invite.  She told a mutual friend that she had left-over invites and sent them to people she didn't really think would come. 

 

ETA...The second child's family is not impoverished.  They make a good living but have not saved for his college.

 

 


Edited by dbsam - 8/29/11 at 7:52am
post #37 of 37

I normally give $100 but to really good friends and nieces/nephews I give $200.

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