Well, I cant really lie to her about anything. She was my OB last time too, so she knows exactly how my labor went. She also knows that I am super into natural childbirth, and that I was a PIA for the hospital to deal with. Basically, they had to break every single protocol for me to birth there. And she made sure that it was set up to work that way. She made sure that no one ever asked me if I wanted an epi and that all of the nurses had reviewed my birth plan before I came into the hospital. I just think that regardless of how awesome she is, an OB is an OB , right? They've gone to school and learned about exactly why every woman should give birth in a hospital. So, I just cant imagine any OB being like , "Oh, cool you are having a UC. youll be fine." I guess Im really just afraid that if she knows that Im planning a UC she will stress me out about every little problem that might come up. And I DO trust her, so I think if she flat out told me "Hey, you really shouldnt do this because of xyz high risk factor," it would affect my decision for sure.
Also, Im trying not to be in the habit of lying to my hcp's, but it seems like its just harder and harder to tell the truth the more I try and take control of our own health.
That is soo cool that she did that...I wonder if it was difficult for her to get everyone on shift during your labour to let you be...? At any rate, I think that's very rare and very LUCKY for you to have had that experience!
And for the rest of the bolded I COMPLETELY agree. And I do NOT believe that pointing this out is vilifying OB's. I truly think OB's see things differently than most midwives who are trained and experienced in dealing with low risk natural pregnancy/labour/births. They have different viewpoints. And even if OB's KNOW that xyz is extremely rare...they might have seen it first hand which makes is so much more tangible in their mind's regardless of how low your risk is they want to avoid it at all costs-even if the procedures used to prevent 'xyz' can actually cause 'hij' which could be also be bad..maybe not so immediately or obviously, or maybe it is just less likely to cause liability issues for them. I'm sure that many times they have great intentions but just act based on all the awful things they have heard/seen in their training/field of work. Which lots of times doesn't factor in exactly the amount of risk being traded- as in in order to reduce a very nil chance of something extremely bad they do something that gives extreme risk of something bad(but not fatal) occuring. Does that even make sense? I am being so vague SORRY.
As for my personal opinion on this topic: I am seeing an OB next month, I will not be telling her of my plans to UC. Mind you I'm seeing her one time to get information about the condition of my cervix (was told it may/may not have been torn during last birth where DR. gave two episiotomies that extended all the way to the cervix) Anyways, I want to know. Not that it makes a huge difference, but it could affect things. I have gone to a midwifery clinic and at this point I have no desire to tell them that I plan to UC. I DO consider myself a very honest person...for some reason I don't look at them any differently than the acquaintance at church who knows I'm expecting and most likely assumes I'm having a hospital birth. I'm I dishonest for not making certain they know my plans? I don't think so. So I wont be offering that info. I can always decide to tell later. BUT, (because once it's told you can't take it back) if at any time during my care I feel any inclination to tell one or all of the midwives I'm receiving care from I will pause and discuss it with DH as well just ponder the idea and the possible outcomes long and hard before telling them.
This labour is going to affect me and my baby and my family more than it will ever affect any healthcare provider. It's my responsibility to do all I can to bring the best outcome for me and my family. At this point, I don't think telling any healthcare provider about the possibility of UCing is part of that :)
Good luck with what you decide :)