My 9-year-old son still does not wipe properly! we can't figure out if it's because his "cheeks" are so round that he can't get around them (he's not overweight, just a thick, stocky football player, who does martial arts off-season), or sheer laziness, or the fact that he's so grossed out at having to do it (he has had a very weak stomach since he was about 2, and sometimes would gag if something just looks like vomit near him (i.e. a whitish stain on our red bed sheet resembled his baby sister's milk vomit to him, and he started gagging).
We have kid wipes in the bathroom, and insist on daily showers, some days 2 or 3, if we smell him after using the bathroom. But last night, we checked, and he still didn't clean it all out in the shower! Yesterday, as my husband checked him after the shower, he also noticed a rash (like a diaper rash) around the opening, but our son said it doesn't bother him at all. I honestly don't understand what the problem is, and am at my wit's end.
I'm worried that he's already being bullied for it [the smell] at school, and can't wait for the conference with his teacher next week to address/express bullying concern (as discreetly as possible; if the teacher or my son's classmates haven't noticed anything, I don't want to make it an issue). some days, our son is very talkative after school, the others won't talk to us at all, and barely responds when spoken to (that's why I think there's bullying, whatever degree it is).
He takes his time in the bathroom, and swears that he uses a ton of wipes, but sometimes there's waaay more than just a skidmark on his underwear (he leaves a scent on the car seats, and anywhere he sits down if we don't catch it right away). I'm seriously thinking about inventing something to help kids like him, because, as I said, I don't think effort is an issue; he just can't get to it. In the mean time, I am going to buy bigger (adult-sized) wipes for the house, and also for his backpack.