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post #1 of 11
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The school is concerned that my 7 year old is delayed.  She is definitely way behind on reading and she is a very bad speller.  She's been in school since she was 4, and all the other kids in her class are ahead of her (some by a long shot).  She seems frustrated by reading, and will often switch things (bad for dad, as an example) or struggle with very simple words like "the".  But in the last few months she's making a lot of progress, so I was surprised by the meeting request at the school.

 

They feel like she is not making enough progress and that concepts come and go (she'll understand something on Monday but completely forget it by Wednesday).  She sometimes writes words backwards, but sometimes she doesn't.  Only once she wrote in mirror image.  I have all along been worried about her reading skills.  She has been teased a few times by other kids when she struggles to read a simple sign when we are out ("wow, you can't even read that??").  I have brought up reading 3 times now with the school only to be told that kids progress at different rates.

 

Other than that, she has an incredible memory.  She can recall so many details.  She is also a great artist.  She's young for her age (I'd say emotionally/socially she's probably about 2 years behind for some reason) and she still has to wear a pull-up to bed every night.  She has a lot of energy and can be hyper sometimes (she gets into laughing fits where she almost acts like she's drunk or something at times).  But for the most part I'd say she acts pretty much typical.

 

I'm at a loss for where to go from here.

post #2 of 11

She sounds just like my DD. My DD has dyslexia and has all the above.

 

However, those things are also all very typical for kids under the age of 8.

 

How is her spaitial awareness? Does she know where her body is in relation to things and people?

 

Some kids are just slower to develop. But if you are concerned then I would suggest private testing for LD's.

post #3 of 11

Maybe it is an eyesight problem? 

post #4 of 11

You could find a developmental pediatric clinic in your area for a thorough evaluation. I would also consider a developmental optometrist as vision issues are sometimes responsible for seemingly poor reading skills.

 

If the school called you in for a meeting then they may be ready to test for learning disabilities, though you may want to also do it privately if you are able so that you get the testing you want in enough time to be useful for next year.

 

Developmental Optometrists

 

Developmental Pediatrics

post #5 of 11

Getting her checked for dyslexia sounds like a great idea. My middle brother had a terrible time learning to read, despite being gifted.  
He had a pretty severe hearing loss and really terrible dyslexia. (He grew up to be an incredibly talented computer programmer.)

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She sounds just like my DD. My DD has dyslexia and has all the above.

 

However, those things are also all very typical for kids under the age of 8.

 

How is her spaitial awareness? Does she know where her body is in relation to things and people?

 

Some kids are just slower to develop. But if you are concerned then I would suggest private testing for LD's.



 

post #6 of 11

I'll second testing for LDs. The memory thing is very common with dyslexia. My 8y is dyslexic and her memory related to school work has greatly improved after 2 years of 4-5 hours of therapy a week but that was exactly the way it used to be. You could spend a week teaching her something, let it go for a day, and then it was gone, she had no idea what that concept was yet the child could recall exact details from a trip a year ago. 

post #7 of 11

Yes to all of the above re: memory.  It's very confounding.  My child has a fabulous memory for some details, but more so, connections, which is very important as they get older.  But in the early years it would be so frustrating to work and work on concepts, seem to have them down, and then have them disappear.  It's why we keep math work going during the summer, actually.  Too much time off isn't helpful.

 

I can say that now as a middle schooler, this piece is much better.

post #8 of 11

Just nodding with all the others that dyslexia could be a very real possibility. We're currently in the end stages of receiving a dyslexia dx for my 6 yo DD, and she exhibits all the same symptoms you've described. Outside of reading and certain math concepts, she's bright, bubbly, artistic, and has great social skills/empathy. However, she is also emotionally immature and has an anxiety disorder.

 

The memory thing is confusing for me, too. This spring, we did a little experiment for school where she was trying to see how she learned sight words the best -- through flash cards or by building sentences using Duplo blocks that had sight word labels attached to them. In the end, she actually seemed to learn sight words equally well through either method, but what was most fascinating (and disconcerting) to me to discover was that although she would miss about the same number of words each time we practiced them together, they were never the same words twice.

 

Reading with her is a similarly befuddled process. One day she will read relatively fluently and without major issues and you think, what's the big deal here? The next day, even with the same text, she may act as if she's never seen it before, sound out words starting from the middle or end instead of the beginning, or forget basic phonemes and how they sound, making the process slow and downright painful. The running black humor joke in our household is that when I sit down to work with her, I never know which version of DD I'm going to get.

 

Anyway, all this to say that I understand your concerns and hope you will pursue testing to get to the bottom of what's causing her difficulties so she can get some targeted intervention. DD will be beginning a program called the Orton-Gillingham method in the fall which was specifically created for people with dyslexia; I'm really hoping we start seeing some progress soon!

 

Kind regards,

Guin

post #9 of 11
Thread Starter 

Wow, interesting.  Yes, the school mentioned that they are confused because a concept is there one day and then they have to start from scratch the next.  I know this kid is smart, but when it comes to math/reading, it doesn't show.  She is fine with controlling her body, but she doesn't "get" time-space concepts well (she still can't consistently figure out that a weekend is 2 days or how long 5 minutes is).  Other kids know their birthdays and she's so vague.  Sometimes she can read words, sometimes she can't.  She isn't always sure what year it is, or how to tell time.  She is totally confused about money despite getting an allowance for a year now (and spending it, getting change, etc).  Her school has a fairly intense language program, yet she still can't spell at all.

 

I need to set up testing on my own and it looks like it is about $2,000.   :\

post #10 of 11
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Wow, interesting.  Yes, the school mentioned that they are confused because a concept is there one day and then they have to start from scratch the next.  I know this kid is smart, but when it comes to math/reading, it doesn't show.  She is fine with controlling her body, but she doesn't "get" time-space concepts well (she still can't consistently figure out that a weekend is 2 days or how long 5 minutes is).  Other kids know their birthdays and she's so vague.  Sometimes she can read words, sometimes she can't.  She isn't always sure what year it is, or how to tell time.  She is totally confused about money despite getting an allowance for a year now (and spending it, getting change, etc).  Her school has a fairly intense language program, yet she still can't spell at all.

 

I need to set up testing on my own and it looks like it is about $2,000.   :\


Jumping in because my DS has always had problems with reading and spelling but when his IQ was tested he was at or above the high end of the scale for his age (we had ADHD concerns but the doctor requires that the school rules out learning disabilities before they'll see your child, hence the testing).  So he's definitely not delayed.  I'm surprised they're telling you that you'd have to set up testing on your own, my son's was all done through the school.

 

post #11 of 11
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I need to set up testing on my own and it looks like it is about $2,000.   :\

 

What You Should Know About Evaluations

 

Specific Learning Disabilities, Discrepancy and ... - Wrightslaw

 

idea.ed.gov/explore/home

Identification of Specific Learning Disabilities


Response to Intervention (RTI): A Primer for Parents
. Klotz, Mary Beth Ph.D., NCSP, Canter, Andrea, PhD, NCSP National Association of School Psychologist.
URL: http://www.nasponline.org/resources/factsheets/rtiprimer.aspx

 

U.S. Department of Education Office of Special Education IDEA 2004 Web Site


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