My DD and I are going through a very rough patch in our nursing relationship right now and it is causing stress for the whole family... I'm looking for words of wisdom or ideas to help. Here's what's happening:
DD is 31 months and DS is 2.5 months. I have always had a smooth, on demand nursing schedule with DD, even in pregnancy. I envision doing CLW and letting nursing end peacefully as she is ready. However, lately she has been crazy about nursing. She wants to nurse all the time (asks at least every 15 minutes when we are at home) and will often throw yelling crying tantrums if she doesn't get to. (I would attribute this to having a new sibling, but it started a couple months before his birth.)
Rather than getting more relaxed about nursing she seems to be getting more and more intense about it. I would like to "fill her cup" by nursing and reassuring her every time she asks, but that is just not possible as I also often need (and want!) to be nursing and holding DS.
I have tried to get us to the point where I nurse her at bedtime, in the morning, at naptime, and at naptime wakeup. My thinking was that if she knows she has times throughout the day that we can nurse she could count on it and relax a bit. I also often offer cuddles, books, hugs, etc to satisfy that connection need. However, she still asks all the time for nursing and tantrums when I gently tell her when the next nursing time will be.
These tantrums are causing DH to advocate for weaning her completely, leaving me feeling torn between my two children, and overall causing stress for everyone. Anyone been through this? What worked for you? What can I do?