a bit of background
my husband loves his job, even though it doesnt pay a whole lot. he will get some raises of course (he just started recently), but its not like there is a potential to make a lot of money some day.
i used to like my specialty, but in my area there is not a whole lot of market for it, and i havent been able to find a job in my field, so i went back to school to get a nursing degree. i still work part time at a job that i generally dislike, but it pays ok and allows for flexible hours, so i put up with it.
i have been feeling recently like the future of my family depends on me and on me only. my husband is comfortable where he is and it seems like he has no desire whatsoever to make any extra efforts for financial security of our family.
we are not doing well financially. we have virtually no savings and some commercial debt.
i have been trying to think up some ways to create extra income, but im so torn between classes, work, cooking, cleaning, a toddler, my family that i havent been able to implement any of the ideas i have. whenever i talk about to my husband his response is "i work full time" as if full time means 23 hrs a day.
his attitude is that "somehow it will all work out", and so i feel like if i dont do something, we will never get ahead financially.
i am considering nursing specialties that i dont necessarily like, but that pay very well. im considering scholarships from places where i wouldnt necessarily choose to work, but i will if they help me avoid massive loans.
i feel as if i will never get to do what i like because my first priority will always be my family's finances.
today we were talking about our cousins to took their kids to disneyland, (which they do at least once a year), and i said i cannot believe that they can afford that considering neither of the parents has a high paying job. my husband's response was WELL, WHEN YOU BECOME A NURSE we will be able to afford it too.
whenever i try to bring it up and talk to him about being more proactive, and about the fact that i dont want to carry the load of our financial stability on my shoulders, he always responds with "ok, ill quit my job tomorrow and look for smth that pay more if thats what you want"
i feel trapped. i feel overwhelmed and pressured. i dont know how to resolve this so my husband finally hears me and does something to help. any ideas?