ex left a lot of stuff at our house when he moved out. he didn't leave in a hurry - it was at least a month from when he started staying at his new place, until he said he was done moving and i could move back in. he managed to take some of *my* stuff, yeah, but not some very important things of his . . . like his medications, his paintings, all his winter gear, musical instruments he had borrowed from other people. weird.
so, occasionally he has asked me to bring these things to him (since he doesn't drive). i've done that, when i'm dropping off our kids. the most recent one was that he had a gout attack and needed his crutches, and he needed them that day, so i dropped them off on my way to work.
he also asks me all kinds of questions, like he recently needed the boys' social security numbers to waive health insurance for them, since they're on mine. oh, he also needed a check-up, so i reminded him of his doctor's name (because he honestly doesn't know) and looked up the phone number for him. that's where i start feeling like mommy and i resent it a little afterwards, but at the time, it just seems like the normal, helpful thing to do.
how would a normal person respond to this? he moved out eight months ago. i think at that time, when i was astonished at all the stuff he left, someone told me i needed to put it all on the porch and tell him to pick it up, or i was getting rid of it. i never did that - i don't know why - but it still seems really harsh to me even though i know it's perfectly reasonable. at this point there isn't much left. should i just drop it all off? <--- okay i already know the answer to that is NO but this is the lack of toughness speaking. i mean, since i drop the boys off anyway, what is my reason for insisting he come get his crap, when it's way easier for me to drop it off than for him to get it? gah.