My house is tidy and the main areas are cleaned regularly....I could definitely do more dusting and things like window washing, floor mopping, dust bunny patrol, etc. And I really need to be more on the ball with laundry!
My DD is 25 months, very active but also very happy to entertain herself, so she makes lots of mess but I also get enough time during the day to clean it up. We are working on her helping to put her toys away as well.
Our mornings are generally reserved for activities, playdates, the library, etc, so we are often out of the house and not making any messes. I try to do at least a load of laundry every day. After afternoon nap and snacks, DD helps me prep supper and then plays while I do a big tidy before DH gets home - I pick up all the toys in the living room, tidy the kitchen a bit etc. After supper and bedtime, I clean the kitchen, do the dishes, straighten her playroom and set up little scenes with her toys for the next day. Then I'll fold any laundry that needs it. I just try to set us up for a tidy house in the morning,
About once a week I tackle upstairs - sweeping, tidying, putting away laundry, etc. I try to clean the bathroom a little bit every time she is in the bathtub, or a bit at a time as needed.
As for "me" time, like I say - DD is generally happy to play with minimal input from me (I don't really get involved in her play, but am there if she wants to serve me a cup of "tea", or whatever). So, I get a fair bit of time during the day to knit, internet, read, etc. Our playdates are with friends and their children, so that is a bit of social time for me. And I usually knit with friends over coffee for a couple hours on the weekend. I usually get 3-4 hours at night after she is in bed. My husband works very long hours, otherwise I could work more time for me in there. I usually take my showers in the morning while she brushes her teeth and reads a book.
I am 5 months pregnant with DC #2 and the past few months have been ROUGH - my house really went downhill. But, we're starting to get back in the swing of things again.
The biggest tricks that work for me in keeping things reasonably clean:
1) I try not to have too much *stuff*
2) I try to touch it once - once I pick something up I try to put it where it really belongs instead of just shuffling it to another wrong spot