pregnancy after miscarriage

[mrskatiekuj]

We misscarried in December, and I just had my positive test yesterday, we are really excited since we have been trying since the miscarrige. Now I'm feeling super anxious, too scared to take a bath and analyzing every crampy feeling etc. Anyone else with previous miscarriages? When do you stop worrying? I'm so very excited for this little one, and I feel like the timing is so right - but I feel like the anxiety I have about a potential miscarriage is almost overriding things. I feel almost too worried to tell anyone.

[mrskatiekuj]

oh btw, I'm crashing this forum - not due until march but ours isnt open yet...hope thats okay!

ok I'm sorry, I am due in Feb, lol - see I am anxious!

Edited by mrskatiekuj - 5/31/11 at 2:39pm

[100%mom]

I'm sorry, I'm not even pg, but just have to ask how you can be due in march?

I had two miscarriages before any live births and you don't ever stop worrying until your baby is in your arms. At least that was the way it was for me.

Actually, I just got a POSITIVE! I'm not even sure when I'm due though.

Edited by 100%mom - 6/3/11 at 11:57am

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Originally Posted by mrskatiekuj 

We misscarried in December, and I just had my positive test yesterday, we are really excited since we have been trying since the miscarrige. Now I'm feeling super anxious, too scared to take a bath and analyzing every crampy feeling etc. Anyone else with previous miscarriages? When do you stop worrying? I'm so very excited for this little one, and I feel like the timing is so right - but I feel like the anxiety I have about a potential miscarriage is almost overriding things. I feel almost too worried to tell anyone.

We are in the same boat.  In January, we miscarried and it was so scary and sad.  I didn't know what to expect and we were so excited about it.  Now that we are pregnant again, I too, am analyzing E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G!  I just have a lot of faith and pray...those two things get me through the day.  After having one healthy pregnancy, I never thought I'd lose a baby....I was totally caught off guard and now know that it can happen to anyone, at any second.  

Congratulations!  Let's try not too worry so much! :) 

[FrannieM]

I haven't miscarried ever, but my mom did SO MANY TIMES i think it is a distinct possibility for me, so while I am insanely happy I also do feel a bit of a brake on my emotions that way.

But the best thing to do is relax.  Take care of yourself and do all the right things but there is really just limited control that you have.  Do take a deep breath, do enjoy, allow yourself to love, and to share with family and friends, and know there will be love and support for you if need be.  

 

[hildare]

this is pregnancy number 5 for me and i have one dd.  i had to have a d & e in dec for a blighted ovum and then had a chemical pg shortly thereafter. 

however, dd was a rainbow baby, after a horrible ectopic. 

i am feeling very positive about this.  i absolutely understand about the anxiety.  i really am going to try to make myself focus on the current moment this time and enjoy this pregnancy.  with dd, i kept waiting for something to be wrong.  my heart would beat fast before each ultrasound and i just couldn't be calm.  fortunately at some point hormones kick in that make you feel pretty zen, though (or at least it was that way for me).  i fully intend to make myself stay happy this time.  what is going to happen will happen and i feel like i deserve at least a little time of happiness... if something goes wrong, at least i will have enjoyed things up till that point.  does that even make sense? 

[mamanoish]

This is a pregnancy after 2 miscarriages for me. I had a chemical pregnancy in December, then got preg again right away and miscarried at 8 weeks, on valentines day. I am approaching this pregnancy with extreme caution. I had just announced by pregnancy right before our loss, so we will not be announcing this one ANY time soon. With my two successful pregnancies I remember feeling morning sickness pretty much when I got my BPF. Never with my losses. Not really yet with this one, although I am having lots of other symptoms. Having a MC takes away the innocence of pregnancy and like others said, I don't think it gets easier until you have a baby in your arms. My two healthy pregnancies were before my losses. One thing that has eased my mind with this pregnancy is checking my HCG. My midwife charges $15 for the lab to be done, which is pocket change to me for the piece of mind I get. My levels look fine so far. Good luck with your pregnancy! I am trying to take it as easy as possible, completely cut things that I hadn't before (like coffee) and I'm trying to do everything "by the book". 

[maxnmaizy]

I am in the same boat. I have two children ages 8 and 11 and never expected to have anything but an easy time ttc and being pg (besides hyperemesis). We started ttc April 2010. Didn't get pg until Oct, miscarried in Nov. PG again in January and mc in March at 10 weeks. We are pg again, due 2/7 and I am so worried. There is nothing I want more than to have a babe in arms and share them with my partner (who doesn't have any bio children of his own yet and is the perfect partner). I want it so bad and there is nothing I can do but gestate and wait and hope this one sticks.

[NolliesMama]

I'm in the same boat. I got pregnant in Dec and lost the baby in January. Now I just got my BFP again due Feb 6th. I've been obsessing and peeing on every test I get my hands on to see the lines darken. Last time they didn't get very dark and that is how I noticed something was wrong. I wish I could relax. I'm also breastfeeding so I'm a bit paranoid that could have contributed. I got for Betas next week but won't get the results for another whole week. AHHH!!

[Kaydove]

This is a pregnancy after miscarriage for me as well. I got pregnant in September 2010 and miscarried at 10.5 weeks in late November/December (found out at 11.5 weeks). I'm not feeling super excited like everyone else is - my DH is telling everyone, even our waitresses, and it seems that they're more excited than me. I'm nervous about getting attached too soon in case something happens.

I have a Pregnancy After Miscarriage and Positive Pregnancy hypnosis. I need to listen to them tonight to see if they help.

[3boobykins]

I'm afraid to even post here--not that I think I can actually jinx anything, but I've btdt, and leaving was hard.  I just feel like I need to acknowledge, somewhere, that I am pregnant.   I am 40 and just found out on Friday at 12 or 13 dpo.  A little over 2  years ago we had a surprise pg. that ended in m/c at 8 weeks.  We decided to try again, but waited until Jan of 2010.  Long story short, I had 4 chemical pregnancies in 10 cycles, and then we decided to quit last October.  I think I must have O'd early this cycle, and had some lurking ewcm.  I was having suspicious symptoms since about 8dpo--extreme hunger, touches of nausea, fatigue, food aversions and cravings, and ovarian twinges on the side I O'd on.  Last Thursday I had a low, pinchy kind of feeling slightly above my pubic bone and to the right (o'd on the right side, I have very clear O pains).  I decided, what the hell, I'll test, it'll be negative, but I'll get it out of the way.  I was SHOCKED when the line came up almost immediately on a FRER, and it was VERY dark, almost as dark as the control line.  I never had symptoms this strong with any of the chemicals or my 8 week loss--and never had that pinchy feeling that could be implantation, so I really, really, really hope this one is a sticky little keeper!

I haven't told dh yet--not sure how to go about that, but I'll figure it out.  I go between feeling scared and feeling really positive about the outcome of this pregnancy.  

Many sticky vibes to you all.  

[alittlesandy]

Originally Posted by 3boobykins 

I'm afraid to even post here--not that I think I can actually jinx anything, but I've btdt, and leaving was hard.  I just feel like I need to acknowledge, somewhere, that I am pregnant.   I am 40 and just found out on Friday at 12 or 13 dpo. 

I go between feeling scared and feeling really positive about the outcome of this pregnancy.  

Many sticky vibes to you all.  

Me too!

40, just tested positive, previous mc, and just so nervous but also happy.

I was torn about posting here, but finally decided I need the support (no matter what happens) more than I was worried about jinxing anything.
 

[buggysmum]

I've had several miscarriages in a row and I am newly pregnant, due 2/19/12.  I am "older" and so incredibly GRATEFUL and over the moon happy to be pregnant again and I just don't want to sit around waiting for a m/c..I want to be happy and enjoy being pregnant! 

Shelly

[Milano]

Cautiously dipping a toe in here.  Got a blazing positive yesterday at 10 dpo.  Recently had a missed miscarriage and a chemical, so gone are the days of carefree pregnancies, at least I enjoyed that innocence twice, but never again.  I am 42 so the odds aren't exactly in my favour.  Let's just say if this DOES stick, it will be a miracle.  I've had a 42-week stillbirth, too, so the worrying never stops for me.  I don't try not to worry, that's impossible for me.  I just try to accept my worrying, and not fight it, and just try breathe and take one day at a time.  Its so hard though.  Huge  to all PAL mamas out there.

[alittlesandy]

Originally Posted by Milano 

Cautiously dipping a toe in here.  Got a blazing positive yesterday at 10 dpo.  Recently had a missed miscarriage and a chemical, so gone are the days of carefree pregnancies, at least I enjoyed that innocence twice, but never again.  I am 42 so the odds aren't exactly in my favour.  Let's just say if this DOES stick, it will be a miracle.  I've had a 42-week stillbirth, too, so the worrying never stops for me.  I don't try not to worry, that's impossible for me.  I just try to accept my worrying, and not fight it, and just try breathe and take one day at a time.  Its so hard though.  Huge  to all PAL mamas out there.

Hugs to you, Milano, and praying for a sticky bean for you.

I am in beta limbo, or beta hell right now. My first beta was good, 105, but my second was only 158, going up only 50% in 48 hours instead of doubling. All the research I've done into this convinces me that this is NOT going to be a good outcome. I have another beta tomorrow. We'll see. The funny thing is, I had a moment of extreme despair yesterday, but today I feel surprisingly at peace with either outcome.

[Milano]

alittlesandy thanks for the hugs and prayers, I hope your beta hell ends soon with some good numbers so you  can relax a little and enjoy your pregnancy.

[hildare]

alittlesandy, i hope things are ok..

milano, the 3rd times the charm! 

i hope we are ALL posting our birth stories here in february. 

[alittlesandy]

Originally Posted by hildare 
 

i hope we are ALL posting our birth stories here in february. 

Oh, Hildare, you made my cry happy tears with this. What a wonderful thought!

I woke this morning with full-blown morning sickness. Something is going on in there! I go for another beta today, and will post the result this evening when they call me. I'm trying not to be too hopeful. I realize now that I would have been so much better off just listening to my body and waiting out the first trimester, no matter what the final outcome, but now that I've gotten on this testing treadmill I have to find out what's going on. I can't let that low number sit on my conscience for weeks. However, after a confirmation ultrasound at 7 weeks, I'm thinking of backing out of all tests and interventions until my level II US at 20 weeks.
 

[Milano]

Hildare, thanks, I hope you're right!

Alittlesandy, crossing fingers for you, yes morning sickness is a good sign!

I, too, hope that we all can write up our birth stories in February.

I took a FRER test this morning and at 13dpo my test line is darker than control line.  I know they say a line is a line and doesn't matter how dark it is, but with my chemical it just stayed the same, never got darker, so I'm hoping that the darker-than-control test line is a sign of something hopeful, for now, at least.  Last time I got sucked into my own beta hell and I'm reluctant to go there again unless I really have to.

How is everyone else doing?  How's the worry levels?

[NolliesMama]

I had my first appt and U/S yesterday. My LMP was 5/2 putting edd at 2/6 but I know I O'd a minimum of two days later than CD14 so real edd would be more like 2/8 or 2/9. Baby was present and we saw a heartbeat but didn't yet hear it. Baby measure more like a edd of 2/14. I'm a little concerned about that but the doctor did the U/S and literally only took about one minute all together to do it. Also when he did the measurement, it was super fast and didn't seem to be that much care for accuracy involved and even a micrometer at this point changes the edd. Plus U/S are +-4days at this stage. I wish I could have another appt. in 2 weeks to actually hear the HB on U/S but that won't be happening. I go back in 4 weeks and am not sure if a doppler will pick it up by then but if not I guess they just hope everything is okay?? Not sure really.