Ok ladies. We live in rural China. We work with some other volunteers of various age and backgroud doing various things. Anyway, long story short, but say, 2 months back we heard that there was a couple with a baby and one on the way coming to join us. We adviced our group strongly that this wasn't a good idea. In our province, the medical system is at least 50 years behind. And of course this is China where 9 out of 10 births end up as a C-section. We've had two friends have their babies here and both had VERY horrible experiences. One won't do it again the other...well...she was knocked out from the drugs for two days and doesn't remember a thing. It was her first and she thinks all birth is like that (and isn't open to hearing other experiences). Most foreigners in our city return home or go to Thailand to have their babies.
So today, my husband hears that this couple has arrived anyway. She is 8 months pregnant already (not sure how she was even allowed to fly from Canada to China anyway). They sort of have an apartment (living with friends). But apparently they are planning on having an unassisted homebirth here. Now, as far as I know, because I looked into it myself for when my baby was born (7 months ago) that homebirth is illegal in China. Now here's the other thing, they don't speak any Chinese. And our hospital doesn't provide a translator service.
What should I do? I already advised their correspondence to tell them to wait to come till after the baby was born (apparently they didn't advice them). They pretty much need to go to Hong Kong or Thailand now if they're going to try and have their baby out of country (she only has 6 weeks to go). But they are adults so as upset as I am about this, they are the ones who are going to have to deal with this messy situation. Should I just keep my mouth shut now? Or try and help them some? Am I being ridculous (give birth in a country with high c-section rate, where you've only lived for 6 weeks and don't speak the language?). Ai ya!