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Glad to hear you've found some clam, OP.  I also have a 3 yr old and a new 1 yr old.  We go through the same stuff as you and it's maddening.  I totally hear you on having a hard time knowing where to draw the line.  It seems that in the last 3 mo. my 3 yr old has completely changed into a different person and I'm struggling with how to handle it.   So about your rules-I think you're doing great with even just those 2.  I also reinforce "love and respect"  and that's my main rule.  I also request cooperation.  I think love and respect really encompasses all of what I want my DD's and myself to demonstrate.  The more I remind DD of the rule, the more I'm able to find some compassion within myself.  Good luck to you!