Originally Posted by kawa kamuri
I'm sorry. Maybe after he fills the tub you can both get in it and relax?
That was my idea - let's make it some nice together time. I mean, we've been so busy and stressed with him being in school and then clinicals. He'll be done with all of that the night that we do this. I guess I felt we could put a positive spin on it and try to reconnect, but he's just been a grumpy a-hole lately. I don't even know if I can relax with him around. And to be fair, it's not 100% his fault. Our medical insurance took away his ability to fill his Concerta script (unless we can pay $200 which we can't). He had to switch last minute to Ritalin and I can tell he's not at the right dosage now. So he's just an irritable mess.
Originally Posted by Mommy2Austin
Send all the labor vibes you can ladies...if this doesn't happen tonight I have a feeling I will be losing my marbles. Contractions have gotten more intense.
Thought I would share an awesome video (its in 4 parts) that shows an awesomely happy medium for birth. I totally would have given birth at this place!
Waterbirth in the 21st Century
Ooh - I hope you're busy having a baby and/or enjoying a newborn right now!
Originally Posted by Smokering
Sigh. We're having money issues.
DH started his own business a bit more than a year ago, and has done pretty well - very well, really, considering how home businesses tend to do in their firs year running. He made more working from home than he had the previous year in his "proper" job. Only unfortunately, freelancing-type work being what it is, he's currently rather low on clients. And he's invested a huge amount of energy writing some ebooks, or "information products", or... something... it's all a bit opaque to me, honestly... which were supposed to sell like hotcakes and make us millions, but which, well, haven't. So now, instead of taking off a good solid month after the baby's born, he's frantically marketing and trying to find new clients, while our money dwindles and the bright idea we had of going to Disneyland at the end of the year fades into the distance.
I'm no stranger to being broke; we grew up poor; but this could be better timing! I have a bunch of stuff I want, and semi-need, to buy; not just luxuries like post-partum herbal sitz bath mixtures, but winter pyjamas and breastfeeding-friendly winter clothes, and things like that. I'd LOVE a cosleeper/sidecar crib thingy; and I'd like to know we have some leeway after the birth to eat a lot of takeout if we need to. You know? Stuff like that. And DH, bless him, has gotten used to the high life and buys himself fancy cheese and all sorts of goodies every time we go shopping. We spend fortune on food as it is, what with the Atkins diet - which he's pretty much given up on, incidentally - and buying free-range and grass-fed etc where we can. And we can't switch to beans and rice, because our flatmate is still doing Atkins properly, and DH doesn't like legumes and would complain bitterly.
Also, my computer just died (although we might be able to get the spare parts free from a friend), and yesterday our 22-year-old car started making suspicious noises as I was driving. And we need a toaster; and I accidentally killed our flatmate's handheld beaters the other day, and now we don't have any. And DD could really use some new dresses and winter trousies, which in theory isn't a problem because I can sew them for her, but... meh. I'm halfway through a dress for her right now, which I might wrap up and give her as a new-baby-brother-having present; but I've developed a mental block about finishing it, and started yet another baby shirt instead. I get a lot of mental blocks about my sewing projects, and nothing even went wrong with this one... it's very annoying.
Anyway. Moan, gripe, blah. Hey, I found my birth records yesterday! I'd never read them before - from when I was born, I mean, not DD. The doctor only had two things to say about me: 'Vernixy" and "Fussy between feeds". Not altogether inspiring, is it?
Sorry Smokering. Money issues suck. We're currently having a lot of them around here. This is NOT the time for money issues! I've watched our savings slowly decrease more and more as we've had this and that little issue. Now the money we were supposed to have to live on during six weeks of unpaid maternity leave is not there. We have part of it, but at this rate we may end up charging our way through my maternity leave as my daycare is the only means of support we have right now. I'm really hoping that DH ends up being offered a CNA position, although he's being kind of weird about it. His eventual goal for nursing is ER stuff and most of the opportunities for CNA are long term care which he's not at all interested in - that's where he's currently doing clinicals. So he's all like, well I don't really want to do this - maybe I should just go get on at McDonalds for the summer. Ummmm...WTF???? Won't it look better on applications for the RN program to have CNA experience, even if it's in a different area than what you're going into than getting your CNA and doing nothing with it. Not to mention he'd have to put in more hours to make less money. I'm beyond irritated with him right now. Anyways, I went off on a tangent there. I hope that things improve for your hubby's business so that you don't have to stress as much. I know how overwhelming money issues can be!
Originally Posted by MaryElizabeth
ay yay yay..... Im sorry that I can't keep up and respond to everyone. I am just.so.tired. And I hurt. The ctx are killing me. My cervix is like hooked up to a lightning bolt. My hips are falling apart and my pelvis is just... wow. Anywho, I locked DD in our van (thankfully, it was running with AC) and it took the cops, fire dept, and EMS to get into my van. Yeah... mother of the year.
I almost have everything done... kinda. I am just done with being pregnant. We leave tomorrow for DD's party and after that is over... I am going to lay in bed until we go to the hospital Wednesday morning!
Hugs to all of you!
MaryE - you poor thing. I hope you have that baby soon so that you can feel better!
Originally Posted by Lidamama84
Hey everyone! Oh, boy, I take one day off MDC and the postings just PILE up!!!
Crystal-I SOOO hear you about the nap thing with your DS-my DD is 2 and a few months and naptimes are becoming a daily struggle, and I did the straightjacket thing a couple times this week. Makes me feel like the world's worst mama! Yesterday, after I gave up on DD's nap, DH is like "oh, it's too early and she hasn't had enough exercise!" Whaaa? Since when is he the expert? But, the last month he's been a semi-SAHD, because I took DD out of daycare for the year I am off work, so presumably he knows what he's talking about. Annnd, he was right. By 2.30 he was able to put her down no prob, and I got to take a 2hr nap too!
Yesterday, at my midwife appointment they said that they want to induce Monday because baby fell again on the growth curve. That said, we would ALL be THRILLED if I could go into labour on my own this weekend. So, no pressure, little one. I am doing everything in the books to get labour started in the next 3 days, and as of last night I have lots of cramping and cervical pressure, but no contractions, that I can tell. I had some bloody show all afternoon and this morning, so that's a start. Problem is, I BARELY slept last night, and I am worried about going gung-ho getting labour started and being exhausted. Oh, well, I'll just follow my body's instincts, I guess. I am aiming for a REALLY long walk today, if I can bribe DD into her stroller, hehe...
Lidia - I actually think my DS's body would actually prefer to nap an hour later and I think that's part of the problem. BUT with doing home daycare I don't have a choice. That's the best naptime for all of the other children and it's the only time I have during the day to put him down for nap. I love what I do for a living, but it irritates me sometimes how it gets in the way of some of the choices that I make for my child. I would so prefer to go with his natural body rhythm. But it's just not possible right now. Some days (once in a great while) he will drop off right away. I don't know. I'm considering experimenting with earlier bedtime and trying to give up nap again.We tried to give up nap once and he was an emotional mess. But maybe if he got more sleep at night it would work. The problem is, I think if he went to bed earlier, he'd probably just get up earlier the next morning, so I'm not sure it would help anything.
Well, bloody show is a good sign. I hope you're able to go on your own, but if not, you know you'll see your baby sometime early next week!
Originally Posted by ~Nikki~
Contractions from 3pm until bedtime yesterday. About 5-6 minutes apart, hurting. Hips aching. Pressure in the pelvis. And then I went to bed and it all went away. I want to throw some kind of laying on the floor and kicking and screaming tantrum, but I know if I do that I'll never be able to get back up off the floor! ;)
I've also been making the mistake of watching the birthing shows, now that I'm off work and have nothing better to do. One yesterday just annoyed the hell out of me. This woman came in, tolerating labour totally fine, and the nurse talked her into an epidural right off the bat because "You don't want to be too tired to push later." So of course the epidural required some other drug just before to make the epidural hurt less, and also made the mother stoned out of her tree. By the time she was sufficiently drugged up, she had stopped dialating. So they whipped out this crazy-ass contraption I'd never heard of called a foley bulb? And "mechanically dialated" her, which they were quite proud of themselves about. Then they came in and told her to push, but of course she was so numb and stoned that it just wasn't happening.
I mean seriously wtf. What is wrong with just letting a woman labour? This particular episode had her paired up with an "I want to go natural" woman who totally accomplished that, but was noisy as hell while doing it, haha. I'm so worried about moaning or screaming or shouting during labour. I'm totally self-conscious about it. I know I screamed while labouring with my son. This totally primal scream that came out of nowhere and I had zero control over. I don't particularly want to do that again. =/
And I'm bummed that it's supposed to rain tomorrow. I've spent all week preparing for my kids' OUTDOOR birthday party (cramming both parties into one day for obvious reasons, this year), and now they're suddenly calling for rain. Grrr. I can NOT fit 20 kids in my living room!! And where the heck am I supposed to have them do the pinata? I hope the rain holds off, or at least goes away for a few hours in the afternoon. One acre for them to play is a heck of a lot better than the 300ish square feet of my living room!
You poor thing. I hope your body stops messing with you and you can go into labor for real. Yeah - I can't bear the birth shows right now. Especially being on the verge of my first home birth I don't want to see birthing in "crisis mode" right now. Bleh - stupid hospital birthing system.
I accomplished some nesting last night. My midwife is coming today so I was scrubbing baseboards, vacuuming floors and couches, reorganizing, etc...I still have things I want to accomplish before she gets here this morning and yet here I am catching up on MDC. Priorities!
I was thankful that last night was the last time I had to do garlic in the vag (GBS test is today). I also did a Hibiclens wash this morning. I hope hope hope this all results in a negative test. Even though I'm birthing at home, I so want the negative test on paper on the off chance of a transfer. I don't want to be forced into abx if they're not necessary! For those that have done garlic as prevention, did you resume garlic at some point prior to your EDD in order to ensure continued negative status?
Okay, I guess I have to get off of here and get ready for the day and finish cleaning or it's just not going to get done in time!