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Queer Conceptions - June 2011

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whistling.gifWaiting to O




* Ad Astra


* cnmk14
* Maybeababy

fingersx.gifWaiting to Know... Braving the 2WW





* Onemommyonemama


Smilingsara BFPChart2.gif

* SouthernFriedKarma  BFPChart2.gif

* Cananny

* Carmen358 BFPChart2.gif

* Nosreves

* Go_Vegan

baby.gifWorking on IVF


* FiveGrandBaby

* Gellybeangrl BFPChart2.gif

* Alphahen & DP
* Mumquest

af.gif  Waiting for AF


* DesertSunsets

* Prettyisa BFPChart2.gif


om.gifTaking a Break/Figuring Things Out/Waiting to be Ready 


* RainbowValleyMama




* Lisedea  BFPChart2.gif




* mami2mami

* MaxK
* Aljm41910
* Happycalm
* IrishBabies
* AmandaMom BFPChart2.gif
* Glados
* SwtRainbowBrite
* DesertSunset (August 2011)
* KSDoulaMama (May/June 2011)
* Serepartera (February 2011)
* Miss Scarlett BFPChart2.gif
* MrsPP
* Milletpuff
* ChiquitayyBFPChart2.gif chart1.gif
* Lyndzies
* DesertSunsets






2011 Graduates!


June    CrystalPerez  broc1.gif  * Qmama42  broc1.gif





May    * KellySF banana.gif  * KgulbransenBFPChart2.gif  banana.gif

April   * want2bmumx2 carrot.gif * Indigoscot & DP carrot.gif
March   * Graceie  broc1.gif* Seraf BFPChart2.gif   broc1.gif* 2ezforyou broc1.gif *Mommy55 broc1.gif 
* Escher12  BFPChart2.gif  joy.gif  *SharriKitColorado  BFPChart2.gif joy.gif * DAWNMP1  joy.gif
January    * Starling&diesel joy.gif



2010 Graduates!

November * Mizyellow 7/25/11 * AmyPDX 7/30/11 * AmandaHope 8/3/11 * Cejae 7/4/11

September * Solejean 5/19/11 * Painefaria 6/5/11

August * Bttrflygypsy 4/10/11 * 2happymamas 4/15/11 * LibraryLady 4/15/11

July * Beastie 3/21/11 * Gumshoegirl007 4/2/11 * Wehrli 4/1/11

June * Coco & DP 2/14/11

May * Burg 2/4/11 * Korey 2/1/11

April * Calimeow * Mtnlisa * Kimlyn32

February * Mistral * Quasar & smartycat * Monarchgrrl * Erthe_mama & DP

January * Lyndzies * FtMpapa

2009 Graduates!

Osker * Megan sacha * Mkpgoddess

October * JJNoho * Mommies 2 Be * Megincl & Ktcl

September * Elismum1908 * KSDoulaMama * Pleasantlyfurious

August * Chicagoml * Wishin'&hopin'

July * Hbog

May * Indigoscot's dp

April * Kelmendi * KJM * Whoabethy * Carmen

March * Scalpel * Katwomyn4

February * Deny_zoo29

January * Jodybird511


Edited by smilingsara - 6/30/11 at 6:13pm
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Thread Starter 

Sorry its late, I forgot it was June!



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Hi shiny, new thread! I think we're due for some BFP's around here! I've been lurking lately, trying to keep my mind off of this interminable tww. I am 7dpo and have another week2whistle.gif Hope everyone is well!


Cananny--Those symptoms sound great! Can't wait to hear the news!

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Thanks for the new thread, sara. I hope the threadkeeper's luck finds you on your next insem cycle!

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Thanks Sara!
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Hi! Sara, can you move me to WAITING TO KNOW, please! Both insems went fine. It was a little sad not having DP there, but mostly no big deal. They also changed their policy and won't give me the vials anymore, which I think is kind of strange. I know we probably won't do anything with them, but it seems like I should be able to have them if I want, right? Oh well, at least now I can finish that conception art I started working on a million months ago.
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Thanks Sara!  You can put me in the IVF section I suppose.  I start my injections on Thursday June 9.  Come on, one little ovary!  Work your magic!

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I'm back, trying this again lol. Last week things went horribly with trying to finalize scheduling etc. with our friend/donor. I guess he's a great friend on every other issue, but this particular one isn't going to work. I'm kind of angry at our therapist right now for not seeing this coming (he had several sessions alone with the therapist and several with all of us together). After all that, and a year to get used to the idea, he completely flipped out on us. So we wasted the last several months trying to give him a chance. But I guess it's better to find out now and have closure than to find out after I got pregnant and put us and our kids through years of that drama and also risk passing on any part of that anxiety disorder that might be genetic!


The good news is that our other donor has come through for us yet again! We don't know him as well, and dread the time off work and 10 hour (each way) drive. But I think after all we've been through, we're now at the point that we don't just like him, but really LOVE him. He's been nothing but a wonderful support to us for over 3 years now, even when he's had all kinds of crazy things going on in his life. The more I know him the more proud I am to be able to tell our kids what kind of man their donor is and what he's done for our family. 


So if you'd like you can add me to Waiting For AF. I'm guessing my cycle may start this weekend, or sometime pretty soon. I can't believe we actually have things ready to try this cycle!!

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New here... I did lurk a bit in your May thread and I was so impressed with the warm/supportive community you created here... so I'm jumping in.  My partner and I lost our DD at full term last year.  We are currently TTC her sibling with the same KD at home. Looking forward to getting to know all of you.

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Ad astra--I'm so glad you joined us! I am so very sorry to hear about your loss. It is hard for me to imagine, but I know your sadness must have been profound. I wish you the very best with your new start at ttc and may your stay on QC be short and sweet!


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Welcome.gif  Ad-astra


So sorry to hear of your  loss.. but you have come to the right place.. this group is loving and supportive.. welcome and hope your stay is short here in queer conceptions.....  





DP tested and BFN.. Still no AF.. but sigh... AF is dues tomorrow... This is hitting DP pretty hard this time around.. she said she feels like she does not want to keep doing this every month.. I just reassure her shes healthy, young and these things take time.. I have to give her space to deal with this.. AFM.. AF is visiting me for the 1st time in like 6 months.. 

Edited by Cananny - 6/2/11 at 8:57pm
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Welcome back, Bunny! Bummer about your donor but sounds like you have a great back up....you're very fortunate :)

asta: I'm so very sorry for your loss. I also can't imagine what you've been through. Welcome to the thread and I hope your stay is short and you are successful in ttc again :)

cananny: Argh for the bfn :( I don't know if it gets easier or harder as you go along....it just sucks overall!


Afm: I had a small temp jump this morning and with all my other O signs I'm going to assume I O'd yesterday! Please move me to tww! FF gave me crosshairs on CD18 but I'm fairly certain I O'd on CD20...I'm guessing it will change once I have a few more temps in. Cutting up my crazy expensive organic pineapple this morning :) ETA: Oh, I had my first pregnancy symptom....when I got out of the shower this morning DD was handing me my bella band...she must have found it in the closet somewhere, I totally forgot I had one! lol.gif



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Welcome.gif Ad Astra! I'm glad you found us here. So sorry to hear about your loss, I can only imagine how difficult that must be. I hope your stay here is brief.


Cananny I know exactly how frustrating it can be, cycle after cycle. I'm sorry you're going through that. But still, it hasn't been all that long. I know it's hard to know what to expect especially when you see so many stories of it working the first time, or how much better fresh is. I'm fairly new to the thread, so I don't know your story that well. Have you tried any medical testing for your partner or KD?


Carmen358 that's a pretty adorable pregnancy symptom! I hope your DD is that incredibly intuitive and correct!


I have a question for everyone...would that be a QOTD? Of those who have taken fertility medications, what have been your experiences?  Especially for clomid -did it increase your egg quality or quantity, or change your O date or anything like that?


We started with male factor (my partner is male) and tried two unsuccessful IVF's with that. I responded great to the high responder protocol, and had many mature eggs. As far as we know (through massive charting and OPK) I do ovulate on my own regularly. I've tried three unsuccessful and unmonitored cycles with two different known donors, all on 50mg of clomid. Our insurance luckily does cover medications, but won't cover anything else infertility related, so all ultrasounds etc. would have to be out of pocket. I'm really hopeful that those cycles just didn't work because of health reasons I've now corrected. But I'm still really nervous. We've been TTC for over 5 years now. This is our last cycle to conceive while I'm 32, or birth while my husband is 45, and we want a large family, so time is a huge concern. I want to be on clomid for the increased chance of working, plus the increased chances of twins (hopefully not more than that!) but part of me is wondering if I might be better off on injectibles or something else, or on no fertility meds. We haven't had this donor sperm tested, but he has two "oops" babies born a year apart, almost to the day, so we're hopeful that his guys are pretty good swimmers.

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Bunny: just weighing in with an answer to your question and some thoughts. I tried both Clomid and Femara and neither did anything for me (except dry up my lining which is common Clomid but not Femara which is where it happened for me). I'm 39 though and it's fairly typical that those meds do not usually assist women over 35. But they are good for women who have trouble ovulating on their own.


You say you believe you ovulate through massive charting so it's likely that you do but the true test would be progesterone check 7-10 days after you believe you ovulated. It is possible to have a period and not ovulate. But if you'd had IVF, you've got a good indicator of how your follies perform. When you did Clomid, you state your insurance doesn't cover ultrasounds but did you see how you responded? And how many mature eggs did you get through the IVF protocol? You're stepping it down using Clomid and you'd be stepping it up a bit if you used injectables but you'll never get as "high" as you did through IVF. You may only be producing one truly mature egg per month no matter what you're using unless you go to IVF again.


The donor sperm could definitely be an issue. It's hard to know. I have one donor that has 10 pregnancies and I think he's the one getting me pregnant but you can see by my siggy that something's not working. We may not be compatible in that when his sperm speaks to my egg, it messes up in the delivery of the message and provides a chromosomally abnormal situation.


What are the health issues you corrected? Have you done other tests to see what your FSH levels are or even your AMH? Have you confirmed that you don't have something like PCOS? Is it money that made you not go back to IVF again? And through IVF, what did they discover? Why do they think it didn't work?


Looking forward to hearing from you.



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Cananny- Sorry for the BFN. No af yet fingersx.gif it wont show up!


Prettyisa-Glad to hear your insems went well..Sorry about dp im sure she would love to be there.


Ad Astra-Welcome.gifhola.gifyou have found the right place these ladies on here are amazing!!




Carmen-hope your tww goes by fast!!fingersx.gifFor a bfp in 2WEEKS.


Fivegrandbaby-Good luck with your ivf.


Sara-Mr.June? So when do you insem?



updates...all is well just got back from a vacation @ the Dells with the family...I LOVE MY FAMILY






Edited by mami2mami - 6/3/11 at 7:16pm
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Thank you for the warm welcome.  We are shattered by the loss of our DD and all the dreams and hopes we had for our family.  We were completely blindsided as the entire pregnancy was well monitored and uncomplicated.  We still can't believe this is our life now.    We are willing to risk our hearts again in the hopes that one day they will expand along with our family.  We inseminated June 1 & 2 so is guess I can be moved to the tww - thanks sara.


Cananny  - sorry about BFN.  I found it really helpful to take a month off here and there and not be consumed with charting and peeing on anything in particular for a change.  We conceived our DD after 8 months, but on the 5th cycle of actually trying.  The time off might also make it easier to get some basic fertility testing done (just for a piece of mind) Day 3 blood work, u/s etc. 


Carmen358  - enjoy the pineapple... my DP is picking one up for me on the way home :) - good thing i actually like pineapples- do you?  DP and I love BC and visit often.  She has family in North Van, but we also spend fair bit of time off the mainland.   


BunnyLullabye- our original 1st choice KD also didn't work out... and looking back it was for the best as we could not be happier with our current KD.  He is incredibly supportive and convinced us that we cannot concede that being parents is blotted out of our future.     

good luck with your cycle, sorry i don't know anything about meds


qmama42 - thanks for your kind words, missing our DD continues to be a daily struggle for both of us.  Hope you 2nd week goes by fast!


how do i create a signature/description for the bottom of my posts?

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AF showed her unwelcome face just about an hr ago...
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Cananny-Sorry about AF!..So when or will you try again?

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thanks for the warm welcome

I just composed and submitted a long post to all of you

a message popped out about monitoring and that my post will be reviewed before actually being posted - is that normal? who reviews / approves the posts? is this a censored forum?

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Originally Posted by ad astra View Post

thanks for the warm welcome

I just composed and submitted a long post to all of you

a message popped out about monitoring and that my post will be reviewed before actually being posted - is that normal? who reviews / approves the posts? is this a censored forum?

??? never seen or heard about that before!
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