My girls have August birthdays 6 days apart. DD1 will be 5, and DD2 will be 2. Last year we did a party for DD2 in late July the weekend of her church dedication with out of town family in for the ceremony and church friends, and did mid August party for DD2 with her friends.
This year I have no clue what to do. We'll definitely do a small family day for each child on her actual birthday, but DD1 is already inviting friends to her birthday party It would break her heart if I said no party.
We have lots of family friends with siblings in the age range of our 2 girls, that regularly do play dates with us. I would want to invite those people (which would be multiple families with 2-3 kids) to both parties. I don't want to invite them to two parties close together. I'm also not ok with inviting these people to a party for just DD1 and ignoring the fact that it's also DD2's birthday. We did a party for DD1's 2nd birthday.
DD1 all of the sudden has a collection of friends whose families I don't really know. She recently started attending a small Waldorf school, and I really haven't gotten to know many of the families. However, she insists that she wants to invite "all of her friends from school" to her party. It's a smallish class, I think 18 kids total. She also has friends from dance she wants to invite, as well as our regular play group and church friends.
All of our family is out of town, and we'll likely try to do either seperate visits from the ILs and from my side, or a trip out of town to see family close to their birthdays.
We've always done parties at our house, but this year I have NO CLUE what to do. We live in the deep south, so August temperatures are well into the 90s and mosquitos are a big problem, especially for my girls who attract them like magnets. So, it's not a great time for backyard or park parties.