So. I've got kids. They go to a supposedly progressive school. Now, at the end of the year, the classes are being taken on a field trip to a local zoo. Not an orchard, not a recycling station, not an anarchist communal house, not a bee-keeping permaculture farm. "The" zoo. Argh.
I have been opposed to zoos since before I had these kids, and have certainly never taken them. They know why, we have had many talks. Now that school is going, I don't feel compelled to 'ban' them from going. They are old enough (9,8) to make some calls about how to manage their own ethical lives. They know what I think.
Where the issue is: Do I go and chaperone? One kid specifically asked if I can do it. The idea makes me want to hurl. I usually navigate parenting in a rather savvy fashion. in this, I'm stumped. Go and support my kid, and see what ze sees? Or let them know that I don't do zoos, even if they do decide to go?
Maybe I should post in teens/preteens. If they were three this would be a non-issue. Please don't tell me to 'get over' my original position, I'm really OK with that aspect of things. I want to know what other parents would do when posed with a situation that is against their own values. My kids both want to go. My oldest says 'I know it's not fun to BE them (zoo captives), but I DO want to SEE them!'. I do somewhat yearn that my kids would reject this sort of thing out of hand, but they don't, and I want to keep our relationship(s) and my (marginal) sanity intact. I think a day of zoo-ing would back-log me about ten therapy sessions. However, if I put on the BigMama undies, at least I can understand what they've been exposed to, and have better handle on a 'teachable' moment.