Originally Posted by erigeron
It's kind of fun taking Amelia out in public and watching people coo and melt over her. Although after a while my arms get tired, and it's so darn hot I haven't wanted to use the wrap carrier, especially since I haven't really gotten the hang of it yet and also I want to talk to the orthopedic nurse just to make sure it's okay to use.
I have to admit, I LOVE this part of having a new baby! I adore him and think he's the sweetest baby ever and it thrills me to no end when everyone else feels that way too. :) It's been hot here too, over 100 for the high every day since Ezrah was born. I put him in my Faurgo (faux Ergo, aka Infantino Union carrier) and haul him around anyway because it's just easier that way.
Originally Posted by Smokering
Jenni: Yikes, that's the pits. :( Is there any chance you'll get child support for the new babe coming through before you have to move?
Right now a lady from church is planting strawberry plants in my garden! She came over bearing three hunks of frozen soup and three small children, who are playing with DD in the living room. Well, sort of. She's watching them balefully as they play with her toys and ignore her, and muttering "That's mine!" under her breath from time to time. I think having a sibling will do her good. :p
Tomorrow our flatmate's mother is coming over for dinner, so I have me some baking to do! I need to make olive bread, garlic butter, chocolate layer cake and white chocolate ice cream... and a roast chicken and veggies, but DH will help with that. Oddly enough, it makes me feel less depressed. I guess having small, concrete goals is never a bad thing. Especially when they involve chocolate.
Heh. We took Miles to the supermarket yesterday, and an old lady in the checkout queue was appropriately coo-ey... but then the checkout lady was all "What's wrong with his eyelids?" He has some red pressure marks on them from being born. But sheesh, lady, what's wrong with "Aww, isn't he cute"?
Had a nice visit from my MW today. She weighed Miles, and he's 10 pounds 12 now! Gained 260 grams in the last five days. We had a nice cosy chat about vaccinations and homebirthing and other such controversial matters - and namely, how to keep people from bugging you about them. :p I don't know whether or not she vaxed her kids, but she does own a copy of A Shot in the Dark, and didn't seem at all disapproving of me not vaxing. So that was cool.
Actually, no. No child support, not ever, from Ezrah's "father". He refused to sign the birth certificate, which is necessary in the state of Texas because we're not married. My other option is to pursue the whole thing through the Office of the Attorney General, establishing paternity, getting child support, figuring out custody and visitation... But I'm not going to do it. His father has made it extremely clear that he doesn't want to be involved in Ezrah's life at all so I'm not going to force the issue. It will end up being a situation where Baby Daddy will make promises and not follow through, or be sporadic with visitation, and I doubt I'll ever see child support from him anyway. It's not worth the emotional and psychological damage to my child for the potential of child support. I'll be done with school in 18 months and I won't need a penny from his sorry hide anyway. Besides, his "reasons" for not wanting to be involved are so incredibly stupid that I'd rather have the negativity and pure stupidity out of our lives anyway.
Originally Posted by Mommy2Austin
I'm officially calling it colic. She just isn't happy. I've nursed her hours on end. Burped endlessly. Held and snuggled her. Bounced her. Changed her diaper. Massage. I even broke down and had DH feed her two ounces of formula because NOTHING seemed to be working (and I desperately needed a shower.) She's running on as much sleep (or as little I should say) as I am. She WON'T sleep for more than 5 minutes in arms or out.
I've never dealt with this before. And I really don't have the ability to just sit around all day with no sleep trying to keep her calm and happy. I have 3 other kids. One of which is still a baby herself.
I'm so sorry! I've never dealt with that either so I'm not really a help. Have you tried gripe water? I have friends who swear by that for their colicky babies. I think Rescue Remedy helps too, for some babies anyway. And apparently probiotics are now showing some effects on reducing colic. I hope you can get some sleep soon!
Of course, since I've been all stressed out it's totally leaking over to the baby. He's been nursing constantly for the past 2 days and only takes cat naps and ONLY ON me. As soon as I set him down to sleep in the bed, he wakes up. That makes going anywhere or doing anything almost impossible because he fusses & cries in the car and anywhere else we go. And then my mom yells at me for not doing anything with my kids. ARGH!!
There is some good news. My mom and I are going to talk tonight. I'm not sure what about exactly, other than our situation and what's going on. We do need to clarify some expectations I think. She wants me to be little Suzy Homemaker and do all kinds of craft projects and such with the kids. But it's all I can do to eat 3 meals a day and clean the kitchen, with the occasional trip to the store for milk. I don't want to exercise, I don't want to go traipsing around the Nature Center and every museum in all of the DFW metroplex. It's a huge hassle to go to the lake for the day with just the kids and I. I have to relearn how to do EVERYTHING with this new person in our family. And there isn't anyone else that can run to the store or make the phone calls or whatever else needs to be done to keep things going. Add the whole no money thing and it equals a lot of stress, which makes me shut down.