Thank you ladies. I ended up getting a confirmation from a female OB whom I know is good, whom has delivered all the babies in my husband's family. I'm still trying to get ahold of that male GP, but he is impossible to track down! I do have to say that reading the reviews for him-- it was like all my hesitation went out the window -for him-. Hearing someone who is that highly thought of, I was confident that I would feel comfortable, and not awkward or on guard.
You bring up a good point Lisa, and that's something I'm worried about as well, was just having an unsupportive female there, because as we know, female doesn't equal supportive or as you've found out, competent. I am so sorry about what you've gone through, and I can't imagine having to go through choosing another provider after that. You're strong mama.
These are so many reasons I wanted a homebirth (one provider, who is supportive of natural birth in general) as opposed to several over the course of the labor, and never knowing who it's going to be.
I'm feeling a lot calmer about all of this over the past few days, although more confused, because I potentially have TWO confirmed OB's right now, plus still trying to get ahold of the GP. But DH and I have had some good talks about being on the same page and putting our foot down for the things we want. And I also found a doula whom I know personally in another part of my life, and I feel I will be well supported. I'm feeling comfortable with any of my three options of provider now, so thank you everyone!