Ever since DS2 was born, I said if I were to have a third, I would have a home birth. My labor was lovely with #2, the hospital I delivered at was extremely friendly and all my wishes and demands were met without question. But since I had an intervention free 2nd birth, I said there was no point in going to the hospital.
We have since moved and I found a wonderful and extremely competent pair of ladies to catch our third. I never second guessed my choice, and DH is EXTREMELY supportive of our choice. Well, a minor complication (pinched nerve due to sacroiliac joint dysfunction) required a check at the backup/transfer hospital (they were concerned about a kidney stone). This is a hospital that is more than an hour from my house and I ruled out simply due to the drive.
Oh my is all I have to say. I think this hospital (which caters to many Mennonite women) is the answer to many women's dreams. Gorgeous, airy and bright, extremely educated nursing staff prepared to help you with a med free birth, birthing tubs in every room, etc. There is only one practice that delivers there too, so even in an emergency I will be seeing a doctor I have met before. Granted it is small, but it is wonderful (oh and the food freaking ROCKS!).
In the end, I don't know what to do. Now that I know a hospital exists that could meet my every want and need, the idea of going there and being catered to for 2 days after delivery sounds a bit heavenly. I wouldn't have the look back concern on "what if" and I would know the doctors prior to delivery if there was a complication. Alternatively, it is an hour away, I have long early stage labors usually, but who knows what this one will bring and I do trust my midwives.
I just need some direction. I spoke to the m/w's today and they told me to meet the other doctors in the practice and see what I think (they are the m/w's backup doctors, so they have a lot of experience with the practice). DH says he would be so proud if we did it at home, but I have to be comfortable about the process or it is going to result in a long drawn out labor (he is a smart man). I don't even have friends who are willing to weigh in to help me one way or another because even if they think I have lost my mind, they know I wouldn't do anything to hurt my baby and so I think a home birth is safe, etc. I did pros and cons and I still don't feel like I have a better grasp on what is the "right" answer in this situation.