Good for you! I am so glad that you are not financially reliant on him, as it sounds like he is not to be counted on. Even so, he needs to be held responsible. Sole custody with no unsupervised visits sounds like it's VERY necessary in this case... not sure if I'd want my DS to have any visits at all, but that would depend on how the lack of visits would affect the kiddo. :( So sorry you have to deal with this crap.
Help me understand this (issues about ex, child support, codependency and letting him off the hook) - Page 2
Texas courts will eat him alive and he deserves it. He has a respocibiliy to the child he made. YOU did not MAKE your son alone. He was THERE. He was INVOLVED and as an adult he needs to take care of his responcibilities towards his child. His wife married him KNOWING he had a child and I can not believe she was ever stupid enough to not think this day would come. How DARE he treat his child so. Shame on HIM.
And Im a Texan. And that p!sses ME off!!! >:(
Good for you for being done. My ex ran for 8 years. Every time the court found him, he'd quit his job and move. Texas finally moved to incarcerate him. (Texas doesnt play like that) and he hasnt missed a payment since. I am currently pregnant with #4. Bf got drunk and told me to marry him and when I told him I was not going to marry him because Im pregnant he turned around and told me that he could not help with the baby at all. I felt sorry for him. For about a week. But he is a BIG BOY. He was INVOLVED and since this is HIS 4th too, he knows how theyre made. Im the one thats going to be parenting this baby everyday. All day all night. Through sickness and health. I didnt ruin his life by giving him a 4th. He ruined it by refusing to wear a condom. So he needs to man up and help out and if he doesnt I wont feel bad at ALL when the courts make him. No more than HE feels bad about me raising 4 kids alone.
(Look at it this way. Jail might make him MAN UP, CLEAN UP, and make something of himself!!! In a way, you are HELPING him. ;)