So, I've decided to let it go. Because one, I don't care about hair all that much anymore. Sure, I like being the one to cut the hair, and actually, she's left quite a bit of it that I can still cut (e.g., to rid ourselves of the bowl cut! or straighten it out, at the least!). And two, I've had a long talk with MIL -- not about this, but just in general -- and have come to realize that she's not cutting hair out of domination or disrespect, but out of genuine care for the kid. AverysMomma nailed it: she misses having her own little guys, and she's anxious that everything turn out right for her kids and her only grandkid. For example, if she sees a white patch on my boy's face she puts vitamin E on it right away. If he has a runny nose, she uses herbal remedies and spares no expense to find the best ingredients for his food. She breathed such a sigh of relief when I told her it seems my kid doesn't have a peanut allergy like both of her kids do. After her own kids' illnesses and those of her siblings' kids, including traumatic hospital stays which she says bordered on child abuse, she's overwhelmingly sad when she looks at the world, and puts all of her effort, fear, and joy into my kid. It's really humbling. And she deserves my respect and all the slack I can give her.
She cut his hair both times because she saw him scratching at his neck, so she figured he's itchy, maybe his hair was poking him. It wasn't -- it was a tag on his shirt which I later removed -- but the thought is sweet. I just wish she'd asked. But now, it's OK, even if it happens again (which I'm sure it will).
Don't worry, mamas, he never had the baby curls. His hair has always been very fine and straight.
Originally Posted by AverysMomma
Out of curiosity, is your MIL Indian?
Good guess. Chinese.