I use a DEM, well she is now a CPM but was DEM at time of my first homebirth with her. Though not legal in my state to attend homebirths since they aren't nurses (CNM's) they are around but don't advertise. I was given the name of one by a cnm that couldn't fit me in as she was all booked up. However, I also found there were several more when I joined a local yahoo group on natural childbirthing and the like for my area. Those women were a wealth of knowledge and knew about all the underground midwives. These ladies aren't just women who decided a month ago to be delivering babies, most are midwives from way back like the 70s and have tons of experience and are super old school and awesome! (I don't mean bite on a stick old school but hands off and holistic) I have regular prenatals with mine where she will check my urine, BP, fundal height (but doesn't put much stock into that one) listen to heart tones, and I love the long personal visits that feel more like I am visiting with a friend. Heck, I never even leave my house, she comes to me, but some have an in-home office you go to them.
If you aren't comfortable with a midwife who isn't a nurse though, the only thing I would do if it were me is leave it in fates hands. If it happened as fast as your last ones, you may not have a choice and will UC unplanned again, in which case, hey, it was decided for ya, lol. But if things go slower and more controlled, just wait until well into labor to go in so there are less chance of more interventions. Also, if you must have a hospital birth, take someone who is outspoken and will stick up for what you want during labor since we are often unable to do so effectively when in the midst of strong active labor, we are off in labor land, lol. You could get a doula for this. They aren't allowed to speak FOR you and refuse interventions but in the heat of the moment, they will remind you of your original plan and ask you in an informed way if you want something that they feel is being maybe pushed on you or you may be talked into because you are vulnerable at the moment or they are doing it for their convenience not yours.
Having a doula is the way to go if you must hospital birth but me, I wouldn't be able to afford one (my midwife is a friend otherwise I couldn't afford a homebirth either, lol) so I would employ my mother (the only family member or friend that is aggressive enough not to let my original plan go awry if I can't speak for myself and would make sure I am making my own decisions and not a Dr or nurse making them for me for their own convenience. I had that happen during my 1st and they pushed stuff on me as my natural childbirth was making them work harder and they wanted me doped, numb and laying still and flat on my back so they didn't have to bother with me till pushing time. They ended up getting it their way as I had no support and was alone except for my BF who didn't know any better.
Good luck whatever you decide!! I know how horrible the thought of a hospital birth is after experiencing the complete flip side of a homebirth. I was originally going to do hospital this time since I finally had insurance (our last homebirth we had no choice, were uninsured) but after a night in L&D I was reminded of why I am not doing it that way unless there is medical need for it. Though I am getting a very discounted rate, I am paying out of pocket to have my 3rd homebirth this time rather than a free hospital one. No comparison.
However, with the right support, you CAN have a natural childbirth in the hospital. I got lucky and had awesome nurses for my 2nd who didnt push anything on me and supported my wishes and helped me have the birth I wanted. It was pure luck though, too bad you can't pre-choose your staff, lol.