My ds just turned six, and he generally gets along with his two-year-old sister okay. But it seems like every day he makes comments like, "I wish A. were dead" or "I'd like to kill A."
Now that I've typed that out, it looks really disturbing, but ds is really a sweet kid, his teachers always comment on how nice he is to everyone, he always takes interest in young toddlers at the playground and plays with them. And he's often affectionate with his sister, but I think sometimes he just gets very frustrated. I do talk to him about why he's frustrated with her behavior (like if she's grabbing his toys). That helps diffuse the immediate situation, but the comments just start up again another day.
I have tried to make a rule that we don't talk about wishing people were dead. But I don't really have a way of enforcing this rule. And I'm having a hard time balancing the idea that negative feelings are natural versus the idea that fantasizing about violence towards real people is not okay.
Can someone help me out here?