I'm going to preface this by saying that MIL is great in many ways and we have a fairly good relationship overall. However, she is perhaps the least flexible person I know, and it's driving me crazy.
Here's my issue: I'm due to have a baby any day now (39w4d pregnant). The plan has always been that MIL and/or BIL would look after DD (3y.o.) while I was in labor. (MIL & BIL live together.)
DD has never slept the night at MIL's house (or anyone else's house for that matter). We tried a few weeks back, but it ended with DD crying hysterically and threatening to walk home by herself. She came back at midnight with a tear-stained face.
We were going to try again with better preparation, but due to various illnesses we haven't had the opportunity. Maybe we should have been more organised and done this months ago, but to be honest it never felt like a big priority to me because I figured MIL could sleep at our house if DD wasn't comfortable sleeping at hers. Anyway, the point is that DD is not used to sleeping away from home and that's unlikely to change within the next few days.
Now I'm due any day and thought MIL would just come and sleep with DD at our house if DH & I are gone overnight. It's going to be stressful enough for DD as it is, and I'd like to minimise that as much as possible.
However, MIL doesn't want to do this. She doesn't like the idea of not sleeping in her own bed. I get that (I don't like sleeping in other peoples' beds either!), but am I wrong for thinking it wouldn't kill her to suck it up for this one night of her life? It's not like I want to go out to an all-night rave, I'm giving birth to her 2nd grandchild. Is her comfort really more important than DD's in this one case?
I told DH how I felt about this, and he was kind of evasive but basically said that we're trusting MIL to look after DD and that we should just let her do that however works best for her, even if that means that DD will be upset.
What do you guys think? Is DH right? Am I unjustified in wanting to dictate how DD is taken care of the night her sister is being born? I just hate the idea of being at the birthing centre knowing that DD is likely to be distraught.
Should I put my foot down on this one, or just be grateful that MIL is willing to do it and let it go? WWYD?