Do we ever think why?

[Ethanswellness]

I have a handsome son who has cerebral palsy who I love with all my heart, but I always ask why him and what went wrong? Will he ever walk or talk? What more can I do to help him? It's hard for me to explain to people why he can't walk or talk at his age and what caused his CP when I don't have an answer myself. Is there anyone else feels this way? How do you deal with your feelings?

[EarthRootsStarSoul]

He has a unique gift to share with the world, and maybe the world has something to show him.

[~cassie]

I felt that way for the longest time.  I have found peace with my answers I have come to.  My son is here to show that being different is ok.  That you can succeed even when faced with challenges.  To give hope to other parents possibly facing similar circumstances.  To push me out of my comfort zone and learn to fight for my child for everything he may need.  To show me that being different/challenged isn't a burden.  That is what my son is here for.

[beachcomber]

It's hard to look at your child and know that they will struggle in life. It's hard to know that their path will be rough, they may be judged, they may face obstacles that typical kids will never even have to consider. It's hard to look at your child and wonder what kind of planning you'll need to do to secure his or her future. It sucks. It really does. It's not fair. You can look to God to find peace, as many do. Or you can look to Fate and simply acknowledge that this is your (and your child's) hand to play. Or you can look into the eyes of your child and try to find the unique gifts they bring with them and just focus on that. Some days it just doesn't happen but there are times for me when I look at my daughter and see this wonderful little girl who takes the world at face value and has so many precious things to share with all of us.

Hugs to you, Mama. I know it's hard. There are no easy solutions or answers. It's just a day by day thing we do.

[Linda on the move]

I believe that every soul who comes here comes to learn something and to contribute something, and that is just as true for our special kids as it is for everyone else. Our children are PERFECT for what ever it is they came here to learn and to do.

Some days I can stay in the space and feel prefect peace, and some days, when my DD is having an extremely hard time, I can't.

I still believe it's true, I just breaks my hear that her path is difficult at times. 

[FarmerBeth]

Sometimes I think the "why" is that all of these challenges our kids face challenge those around them to remember what really makes us human and to see the full beautiful diversity of the people around us.  And I still get tired and frustrated that it's my child, that I tried to do everything I could for him to have the best chances, and that he still has an uphill battle.  It's so hard to reconcile, but some days I see how much his siblings and friends have grown alongside him and how much he has grown and I can feel that there has been good alongside the challenges.