A friend of mine had a baby exactly 10 weeks ago. The baby was born 7lbs 2ozs via c-section after both a failed induction. She hired one of my other friends (they previously didnt know each other) to nanny for a few weeks for her while she tied up some loose ends before summer at work (shes a professor at a very prestigous public health school, im not kidding). Since my friend has been nannying for them she has witnessed some very sad and disturbing behavior.
The mother is giving the baby breastmilk, exclusively from a bottle. The mother will only allow my friend to feed the baby 2 ozs every 3-4 hours!! The baby screams all the time. Before he eats, then keeps sucking and sucking on the empty bottle, but the mother insists that he is fine and doesnt need more. The just took the baby to the doctor last week, he only weighs 9lbs! The doctor is so concerned he told them they need to give the baby formula.
The mother also wont touch the baby at all. She wont even breastfeed or hold the baby at night. The husband is friends with mine and told mine he does all the nighttime feedings with a bottle. This week she left for two days for a business trip and literally didnt hug or kiss the baby at all when she left just said "mommys leaving, bye bye." Waved. And left. My friend was so put off.
The husband is just really weak and thinks because his wife has a doctorate that she must know everything. But I think she must have post partum depression or something, because she is literally starving her poor baby.
My husband and I are so upset we arent sure what to do. I sent her a text the other day asking her how things were going after she sent me one and she NEVER RESPONDED?!
Im at a loss. My husband thinks its child abuse and is livid. Im more from the "let people damage their own kids" mentality, but if something happened to this poor baby because she is mentally unstable and her stupid husband just trusts her judgement, I will never forgive myself...
PLEASE, someone give me some insight!! We are so concerned and would really like to hear everyones opinions. Have any of you experienced this with anyone you know?? Is this normal? Are we being over-concerned?
Thanks so much in advance!!!