Does anyone know anything about this? My dd friend has gotten into this. She has .always loved putting pictures of herself on facebook and editing them and she is pretty good at manipulating images and such. I have noticed many changes on her over the last year and she has started posting some pictures that i found disturbing. Slutty clothes (short skirts, skimpy tops, slashed leggings ), sexy, pin up style poses (Have I mentioned she was 12 when she started taking these shots. I think she just turned 13), kissy faces, profanity etc. Then the friend frenzy started, she was adding 50 people a day. Finally, I saw a picture of her sitting in her yard holding a sign that says "Yes, I am real" with the address to her facebook page. So i decided to check in on her and see what was up (I have known this kid since she was two. I worry. and my daughter is being exposed to this and to all the people on this girls page)
She is on 25 modeling sights. The focus on girls between the ages of 11 and 15 (they say 13 but all my dds friends are 13 on FB ;-) because you have to be 13 to be on FB even if you are really 11 ). They have to post a certain number of times per day, tag certain people, submit 6 - 10 new photos per week, enter every contest. Under her pictures were people falling all over themselves about how beautiful she was (she is cute but average and pictures are heavily doctored - lots of heavy make up added, she is skinny but looks like she thinned her waist - she looks like she is going to.snap in two in some pictures). She doesn't actually know the people on these sights personally. For all she knows, their profiles and pictures are fake. Someone has stolen her pictures in the past and posed as her.
This seems like a pedofiles dream. Am I over reacting?
I am also worried about the "look at me look at me" culture where kids are posting hundreds and hundreds of pictures of themselves Spend hours every day taking pictures and editing pictures...of themselves. yuck. It seems to walk a line between extream vanity and low self esteem (constantly throwing out lines to hook compliments. hear people tell them they are cool/pretty/talented etc like they can't live without it). Site modeling seems to feed all this. They aren't modeling anything. They aren't getting paid. There is no end goal to this parading about. I don't get it.
on the upside I talked to my kid and she was like "oh gees, its so dumb" LOL. Words of wisdom from Maddee. We talked some more about vanity, self esteem. We talked about clothing choices and why I think this is dangerous (6-10 pictures day and not so careful posting. The pedos won't have to work hard to figure out where she lives. And it is not a small town, but it is not big either.) I asked her about if she was worried about her friend and she started to cry. Which concerns me.
If this was you friends kid would you talk to them (the parents) about it? Her parents are facebook friends with her just like I am. There is no way she is doing this behind their back. I noticed. They had to notice.
Would you ask your child to limit their online interaction with this person? (I don't care if they hang out in real life.)
She has pictures of at least two of my kids in her albums. Should I ask her to take them off? I am worried about the creeps who can see her albums seeing my kids. She is a decent photographer and there are some stunning pictures of my daughters on her account. Some of M in her jammies and swim suit, formal wear. Seems silly, they are modest enough, but still. (and there is no way you add 1000 people based on pictures of your body and get no creeps).