Setting Limits with Your Strong Willed Child

[happy1nluv]

I am reading Setting Limits with your Strong Willed Child by Robert Mackenzie....  I think its a good compromise for dh and I... he thinks I'm too permissive and he's waayy too authoritarian - so we've both decided we can live with this -- at least to try it out for a few weeks and see how parenting as a unified front works...

But, I have a few questions...   has anyone read it? 

It has a section on what to do with misbehaviour outside the house... mostly taking your child to a quiet spot/the car to sit for x number of minutes.  OK, I get that...  but what do you do when you have 3 kids and you are out alone?  (So...we're at the supermarket.  ds#2 won't stop pulling stuff off shelves.  You're supposed to leave your cart and go sit in your car for 5 min, parent closing eyes feigning sleep).  Umm... if I did that, it would be romper room in the car and they would misbehave MORE to get to play in the van... 

Do we just stay home til the kids are used to the "new order" and then hope they don't test outside the house (not bloody likely! - 2 of them are definitely aggresive testers, not sure about the littlest one yet)?  Leave anyplace, stuff unpurchased and go home ( i dont shop often with them, but sometimes i do need them to come to target or the market with me - i guess us having no fresh food and living out of the freezer/cans would be a consequence, esp since we pick out fruit first at the market so we'd definitely have good stuff in the cart to leave behind)...

anyone have any suggestions?

thanks!!

[sapphire_chan]

Go shopping with both parents, or go shopping with one kid at a time. I know that can be difficult to arrange, but when you could manage it it would be a chance to get the kids out and get them practice in store behavior.