"Waiting to O" Support

[jlmschirm]

I've looked for a "waiting to O" support thread and didn't see one. I'm so excited/anxious/eager as I'm waiting to O!  I'm stalking my own chart every 5 minutes. What do you all do to pass the time waiting to O?

http://www.myfertilitycharts.com/webedition/20/ovulation_chart.aspx?y=2011&m=5&d=25&a=1&ev=1&mc=1&dt=0&g=0&l=&fid=19249&pub=1

[jlmschirm]

My struggle today has been trying to hold my pee long enough to get good opk results.  I swear the minute I think "you need to wait 4 hrs before you pee next" I immediately have to pee so bad I think my bladder will bust!

[SilaMarila]

Oh this is me for sure! Check my chart 109334839439 times a day looking for some hidden pattern in my temps, check my cervical fluid so many times/day I start to worry I won't have any left for the little swimmers by the time DH is home to DTD, check my cervix the next day after DTD and worry I may have disturbed any remaining swimmers...have to use FMU for OPK's because I can't hold it...

Currently not temping. This is only my 2nd day abstinent though. I have been struggling with really mega long infinity cycles and rarely O'ing. My body gears up to O numerous times and then just doesn't. SO I feel in constant waiting to O. I'm seeing an acupuncturist and she is most likely going to trigger AF so she can move forward with my treatment. So until then I'm just hanging out. But still waiting to O!

[casmer]

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Originally Posted by jlmschirm 

 What do you all do to pass the time waiting to O?

I was afraid that using the OPKs would make me more anxious, but I think they are actually helping me pass the time easier because I know what's going on.  Now if I start getting mixed messages between my temps and OPKs that may change...haha. 

I've also been reading about how soon I can test after I ovulate and I've been doing a countdown to my predicted fertile days.  I'm a very routine-based person, so simple things like taking my vitamins, drinking enough water, etc helps me feel like I'm doing something...a mental checklist so to speak.  I've also been better at meal-planning because I don't want to feed my baby junk food (meal-planning is very time consuming for me).  Even DH thinks I'm doing much better anxiety-wise than I was a few weeks ago, so I guess it's helping.  I also don't let myself spend too much time reading the forums...I limit myself to about 5-10 minutes each time I'm here. 

At least for me, it seems like there's a fine-line between distracting myself and obsessing!

[jlmschirm]

I know! When I'm incessently stalking my chart I often feel like I'm doing one of those middle school logic problems when I am waiting to O. Do you remember those? Where you have 5 kids who need to get to 5 different activities using 5 different types of transportation i.e. Marcia is going to ballet on her bike, Jose is going to soccer on the bus...

Just so anxious about doing everything "right". I really need to let go of my desire to control everything!

[jlmschirm]

So I'm new to OPKs.  With DS I only used them one cycle. You can see from my chart (http://www.myfertilitychart.com/webedition/20/generatechart.aspx?y=2011&m=5&d=25&a=1&ev=1&mc=1&dt=0&g=0&img=1)  that I started this time around on CD 10 and I've been testing 2-3 times a day (thank goodness for internet cheapies!) Up until today the tests have been DEFINITELY negative...I usually take one with FMU, one around lunch time and then one the next time I can hold my pee long enough! Today my afternoon tests have started to get darker!

Here's the one from 12:30 - I still consider this negative:

Now here's the one I took this afternoon at 4:15 with 4 hrs concentrated urine:

(Zoomed in - sorry it's blurry)

Is this positive?? Should I test again tonight? We're planning to bd 3 days straight when I get a true +. I'm thinking tomorrow and Thurs need to be bd days...do you all think so?  All my other symptoms are fertile so I know I'm totally overthinking this...just need some reassurance .

Thanks!

[casmer]

I would err on the side of caution and just BD anyway.  I got the OPKs that give you a smiley face when they are positive...hahaha.  Although my OPKs have been negative (I only test in the AM b/c I can't hold it that long), we decided to BD for at least 5 days prior to my estimated O date.  Luckily DH has no problems with that decision...haha.   I hope someone with experience can give you a better answer.  Good luck!!

[RosieL]

jimschrim - BD away! I use ICs too and was worried I wasn't getting a true positive, until the cycle where I confirmed O with my temps. I posted pics of my OPKs, lighter than yours, and aside from an occasional "no", most people said those were positives OPKs. The most telling part was the darkening, then again the lightening, showing the pattern. I kept all my OPKs and lined them up to better see the pattern of changing LH. :) 

Good luck!

[SilaMarila]

Agree! BD!!! Keep using your opks until you notice them gradually getting lighter. 

[jlmschirm]

Thanks everyone! Got an unquestionably positive opk today, the test line was nice and dark before the control line even finished darkening, temp stayed in normal range today too! Fingers crossed we bd enough to give my egg something good to choose from!

[casmer]

jlmschirm, Sounds like we are in the same boat!  I got a little smiley on my OPK test and my temp is still within range. So exciting!

[jlmschirm]

@Casmer YAY! I'm feeling good that we've done our part this cycle to maximize our chances! Hoping for one more bd tomorrow and then I expect a temp rise on Friday! And then the dreaded 2WW...

[jlmschirm]

Having some pretty significant pinching/cramping in my lower left abdomen. Hoping it's my egg coming out to play (it could also just totally be my imagination)

[jlmschirm]

Ok! Here's hoping we hit a home run.  Praying for a nice, obvious temp jump in the morning to confirm everything else! 

Here's my chart: http://myfertilitycharts.com/webedition/20/generatechart.aspx?y=2011&m=5&d=25&a=1&ev=1&mc=1&dt=0&g=0&fid=&img=1

And here's a pic of my opks:

 I would say that the 6/8 4:30 opk is close to positive. I think my urine was just less concentrated...but anyway...I'm 99% sure today is O day. Fingers crossed!

[casmer]

Woo hoo!  Go egg, go!

I didn't get a temp spike this morning, but I will be really surprised if I don't tomorrow AM.  I really do think it happened either yesterday or early this morning.  As much as I hate to admit it, the 2WW won't be fun.  I'm not just feeling "positive" this month, not sure why, but it's probaby my brain not allowing me to get my hopes up too much you know?

[jlmschirm]

I understand.  It is almost like you want to convince yourself that you didn't get everything just right so that you're not too disappointed when you see a BFN...but it sucks either way.  I know that I'll be super disappointed if we missed it this month.  When we were ttc with DS it took nearly 15 months.  I was charting and there was never a clear pattern to my chart, my cycles were extremely irregular 40-60 days, and I didn't know my body well enough to trust CM or CP.  Of course we got pregnant the cycle we "stopped" trying. I was ecstatic of course, but it was frustrating not knowing what worked and how our timing was, etc. This time, though, my cycles are more regular (28-32 days), and this is the first cycle where I feel like everything lined up just as it is supposed to. I feel like a kid who finally got their science experiment to work So I'm really hoping we covered all our bases.  I'm so tired of bd  We are a once a week, once every 10 days kind of couple when we aren't trying so it is a lot of "work" for us to bd 5 times in 7 days.  My dh has been a superhero though, so here's hoping it pays off! Good luck to you!  Do you have your chart posted somewhere?

[casmer]

I have generalized anxiety disorder and I can worry about anything and everything under the sun.  My current worry is that my charts typically look good, but there's a fear I'll be TTCing for awhile and not have a clear reason why.  I *know* that's incredibly silly, but that worry is in the back of my mind sometimes (for no reason).  grr. I hate GAD.

Here is my chart: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/casmer

This month's temps were unusually high at the beginning of this cycle.  I wasn't sleeping well AT ALL for a few weeks (tons of stressors at the time) and last night was probably the best sleep I've gotten in a month (although I didn't feel refreshed when I woke up).  Today I thought my CF had dried up, but I think I might have noticed a little a couple of hours ago.  I think I'll try to muster up the energy for one more BD.  I hear ya on being tired of BDing...whew, I'm going to need a break soon -ha!  Blessings to you on #2! That's almost poetic.

[jlmschirm]

I understand you on the anxiety.  I was like that with DS.  There was no good "reason" why things took longer than "normal". But your chart looks good...if you do spike tomorrow you might take out those couple of early high temps and see what happens.  I'm like you, CM has dried up today. You've definitely covered your bases with bd.  One more time couldn't hurt...but I think it all looks promising.  There's nothing else we can do but wait it out now.  It's kinda fun to have someone else in the exact same place in the cycle to compare notes with!

[imanifaith11]

More than likely it looks like you got your egg yesterday! 

From the time I see two lines, I start BD because I don't want to miss ovulation waiting on the test line to become darker. Sometimes, I swear that my eyes are playing tricks on me. To my understanding you can BD through the temp spike-just to air on the safe side of things.

Good luck

[jlmschirm]

@Casmer - Haven't heard from you in a while...how are things?