The time has come in our family that both myself and DP will be working FT outside the home. Please no flames, it is unavoidable at this point. Now that we have a time frame about when I will be going back to work we have started trying to secure care for DS.
DP is pushing for an in-home daycare, he spent the first years of his life from 6 weeks to kindy in the same home daycare and says he has fond memories of it and the provider, and apparently it was like a second home, and he made some great friends, etc. His provider seems like a pretty cool lady, she attended some of his major life events like HS graduation, recitals, etc. She is still doing care today, but only accepts a certain age group which is younger than DS. Okay that's fine, so in the last week or so I have started an intensive hunt for daycare for DS. I went through tons of ads on CL and kijiiji for home daycare in our area and sent out a massive round of emails with a few questions about what we were looking for. So far I have literally not received a single response!!!
I asked what they practice for discipline and stated our preferences. We do not do "time-outs" here, and would not feel comfortable sending our son to be in the care of someone who does. Redirection, offering alternate choices, and occasional natural consequences work for us.
I asked for detailed information about their menu, meal planning, and nutrition. We are organic, vegan, GF. I don't expect the provider to be all that necessarily (we are currently NOT in a progressive community ) , but want to know that DS will not be in an environment where he is eating the good stuff from home while his buddies are eating frozen chicken nuggets, day after day.
I asked if they have a regimented nap time, and stated that we would not be comfortable with forcing DS to adhere to that. (In my initial research I found it was not uncommon that daycare kids "must" nap every day from 2-4PM.) At our house we sleep and nap when we are tired, or when our day is done. If that means DS stays up "too late" because he was busy at play, that is fine. Maybe he will nap the next day. Maybe not. We will never ever say that every day from 2-3 PM or whatever, he must sleep.
There were a couple of other questions I asked but this is the gist of the issue. And like I said, not one single response. Are these questions too complex, or what? If so, talk to me about other care options so I can present that to DP when daycare falls through. I was actually thinking it would be cool to hire an au pair. I don't know!!!