So I'm starting to get discourage on OKC. I really need to just do away with it but am having trouble letting go of my one connection to the possibilty of a date! I just keep attracting the weirdest guys! Just by messages, I don't meet up with just anyone on that site. I haven't recieved any messages or visitors that even seem safe to pursue :( Should i try making the first move on some guys that I might be interested in? Or is that not "the way" to do it? Is it standard for the guy to send the first message?
Also, has anyone had experience with using Match.com after OKC and can give me rave reviews? I am hesitant to spend the money if it's going to just be the same creeps sending me messages that make me just feel worse about myself even trying online dating! Also I'm not 100% sure my ex doesnt check match.com just to see if im on their so I'd have that to worry about too...
how else does a single mom meet potential dates? anyone else have ideas? HELP :)
Martha you should totally make the first move on those dating sites. Otherwise you'll only hear from wackos- in my experience. You have to be bold- if you like someone send a little message commenting on something in their profile- something you have in common or whatever. I like match because you can "wink" at someone and if they like the looks of your profile they can "wink" back. So you know there is mutual attraction. Then you can send a little email hello. I just joined Cupid and haven't given it enough time and attention since I am talking to 3 different guys on Match. One I already met. Another I am excited about meeting- hopefully soon but kid issues are making it hard. And a third I may never meet. Not sure if I'm interested enough and he is leaving to spend the summer in Florida next week- so why would I do it now?
So- do it!