I've been invited to attend a casual dinner event at a place where there are people in addiction recovery. I was BF'ing my 12 day old NB there months ago and asked not to BF in the open again, due to there being male adults in recovery that might see what I was doing. Their rule is no relationships so no sex and "even being able to have the idea that there is a boob possibly exposed will make them crazy/uncomfortable/they have hormones."
I have some friends that will be very disappointed if I don't attend and there will be a lot of friends and family members as well. LO (he's 4 mos and I've never pumped/used a bottle) will definitely want to nurse, probably most of the time. It's going to be late afternoon/early evening, DS's prime time to tank up for hours before he conks out for the night. My only wrap is too short for him to nurse while I wear him. He hates being covered, and it's going to be a bunch of people crammed into a small area without AC anyway, I won't make him uncomfortable like that. I also refuse to go to the bathroom or sequester myself in a hallway to feed my child.
I know I need a stronger spine (working on that one), but I don't want to upset anyone there and I am not sure how well I would handle a confrontation if someone said something to me when I was feeding my babe, since "I was already asked not to." I and my child are the ones being disrespected in this situation. All I can come up with is to try and find an out-of-the-way seat so I can keep the lowest profile possible and hopefully no one will say anything, but I have people that will want me to sit with them so that probably won't be possible. I am thinking about skipping this event altogether so I don't have to worry about the situation at all, my LO is worth more to me than that fuss. I am not ashamed to NIP and do so as needed all the time, it just bothers me that too many prefer to perpetuate a sick perversion of feeding a child than to consider what is normal and healthy for a baby.
Is there a perspective I am missing? Any advice to deal with this? TIA