Hello, I am 48, married and have one ds, 9.5 who is an only child Not by choice. I was 36 when I got married, had him at 38. Had one mc before and after his birth, and due to chemotherapy went into early menopause when he was three.
I am still dealing with only child guilt! How do I deal with this?? We moved to Utah where big families are the norm. We've been here 6 months and I've only met one woman with an only child! How do I not feel sorry for ds so he doesn't feel sorry for himself?
It is so hard doing playdates, kids here have multiple sibs and I think some moms hesitate because the other sibs won't have anyone to play with. I have found this with my friends that only have two children as well (back home).
Above all, I don't want ds to grow up lonely! I had a sib and I still was lonely a lot of the time, can't imagine life without at least one sib! Ds does well in school, seems happy but I know he would love to play more. Sometimes kids just aren't available, and I get so tired of constantly being 'activity director'.
Any helpful advice would be much appreciated! Does the only child guilt ever end??