Someone told me when I was pregnant with DD that parenting one baby is like parenting one baby. Parenting two is like parenting four. I had no idea how true that is. Bear with me while I rant a bit - I really am trying to keep an even keel and willing to try anything, but the truth is that I feel like a failure.
DS (3 yrs 2 mo) taught me everything I know about Attachment Parenting. His incessant screaming and need to be held constantly drove me straight to every book by Dr. Sears. We baby wore, sat in the backseat of the car, nursed perpetually, held through the night and through naps.... and I learned to love it. Now that DD is 2 mo. I have stopped waiting for the other shoe to drop. She's a much more relaxed baby than DS was. Still, I'm finding AP to be beneficial for her, too. But if I'm constantly tending to her, what do I do with him?
The reality is this: he watches (approved) kid shows on Netflix for far more time per day than I ever imagined I'd agree to. I've stopped even trying to potty teach because diapers are easier and faster, he's stopped napping because I can't lie down with him without DD distracting him, and he eats meals while wandering around the house. And no wonder he's defiant - the time I spend playing or cuddling with him has plummeted 80%. He's such a loving and bright boy. I credit AP for that. I just can't figure out how to honor him and his sister equally. As calm as she is, she doesn't nap on her own for much more than 20 minutes at a stretch yet , which throws us into this cycle of nibble nursing and cat napping, and makes it all the more difficult to get out of that damn chair and do something with him. We do use the sling, but I was never very comfortable doing much more than walking around with it on. Certainly running around the back yard playing tag is out of the question. DH has been good about spending extra time with DS, but he's not here all the time.
I want my relationship with son back, yet I want my daughter to have the attention he got for three years. How on earth do moms do this? Do I take advantage of her good nature and push for more <shudder> crib time? Or indulge her needs and sacrifice his?
If you tell me it gets better, could you specify a date? (Sorry, just a little sarcastic humor amid my self-doubt and loathing. ;) I do appreciate any wisdom!!!