My sister in-law-A sat me down before I knew I was pregnant, and drilled me with questions about thinking I was pregnant. My husband and myself just spent an entire week in Louisiana with his brothers family (sister-in-law-A's family) and his sisters family...(sister-in-law-B).
This was our first family activity since we had been married, and first time with all of them, since we had been married with out any of their approvals or invitations...(Our third time getting engaged we just decided to skip them out on the whole thing since the all aided in calling off the other 2 engagements) sigh...not exactly what we wanted but hey, getting married was the best thing that we ever did up until this surprise. :D
Anyways...sister-in-law-A sat me down and drilled me, for not joking, 2 hours straight about thinking I was pregnant...after the first hour I assured her I wasn't pregnant and that wasn't why we got married, apologized for getting eloped and the whole shabang. The second hour consisted of her telling me what a relief it was that I wasn't pregnant and that if I was than she hoped I would do 'everything' I could to prevent us from having a baby if I was? Because, if I was pregnant it would just rip the family apart. Informed me that no-one likes me and they are all just being nice and trying for my husband. She said a lot of other hurtful things but I won't focus on those. She's moving to Pennsylvania. (she married into the family after 2 weeks of knowing kolby's brother and was only engaged for 2 weeks and than became pregnant 2 weeks after they where married, now she has 6 kids)
Sister-in-law-B would always call my husband and say run, run, run over and over again, tell him how much she didn't like me...constantly, and she lives in Kentucky and had met me once and we went sledding with the family?
Well my family is so excited and we had no problems telling them anything. In fact my Dad called the whole family before I had the chance to even tell anyone. Ha ha. We told his parents after his mom confronted us about a dream on mothers day, and they where really emotionless about the whole thing and as weeks go on get more and more excited. Seeing how they live to be grandparents to their other 10 grand-baby's...will be all gone and far away at the end of June.
My whole question of this situation is how and when do I tell the sister-in-laws who are not the founders of my fan club that I am pregnant now and 10 weeks along (been married 12 weeks now). How do I explain that I didn't know when she asked me that I was pregnant. They both made me feel very uncomfortable with everything they say, and now I feel like I am constantly trying to be approved. The thing is, is I want to just say F**K off but it really means a lot to my husband that I continue to improve the whole situation he says once they really know me they will like me. I'm just scared has anyone else gone threw a situation like this?
The reason behind the families dislike for me...is that Kolby is a recovering addict. We've been together 3 years, and threw the years we have been together, we have been him fighting his addictions. He has been clean for over a 1 year now. But he admitted to me that the reason his family didn't like me was because that when he was heavily using he told them it was all my fault and he said he would describe the things he hated about him with my name. It is something that we have continued to work threw, but he painted an image of me that wasn't true to people who didn't know me, because he wasn't thinking...
What can I do in this situation, do I wait and make sure I don't miscarry before I tell them, how long do I wait, how do I say it, should I wait till sister-in-law-A moves away so she can't do much damage? I feel like this is a no-win situation.
His parents put a lot of pressure on me to tell them sooner than later saying it will be worse the longer we wait. Even though she's not a fan either, but I REALLY have been working my but off the last 4 months giving her the chance to know the real me too, and so far it has been working.