I watched that YouTube video posted earlier in this thread and screeched, omg. I almost wish now that I didn't know that's how circ is done! I don't know if I missed where this might've been covered on the thread or not, but do they really not use anesthetic of any kind during that procedure? Or do they use local anesthetic at least? My heart is breaking right now for babies going through that. I don't understand why female circumcision is widely accepted as genital mutilation and outlawed, but for boys it's seen as normal. Before we found out that we're expecting a girl, I had a discussion with DH about whether or not we'd circumcise a boy. Thankfully, he has been open to pretty much anything natural that I've wanted during my pregnancy, childbirth, and future parenting - so he is okay with whatever I want to do. He wasn't opposed to circumcision at all. He does see how it is unnecessary, though. I'm so thankful that he is able to view things from a logical standpoint from all perspectives and not rush to judgment quickly. We don't have to worry about the circ issue this time around, but I'm so glad to have learned a lot about this.
Oh, and I am shocked by the fact that most people are misinformed about early retraction of an uncirc-ed boy... I had no idea it shouldn't just be retracted and cleaned right away until I read this thread! Wow. My brother is uncirc-ed because my parents adopted him from Guatemala at 9 months of age. They said it was no big deal and he hasn't dealt with any hardships because of it. But my dad is also a doctor, and so both of my parents always said that an uncirc-ed penis needs to be retracted and cleaned regularly. They have never mentioned a waiting period before cleaning because of a need for natural retraction. Growing up with parents with a strong and valued opinion in the medical community, where people really trust that whatever they're told is accurate and best, has given me a firsthand perspective of how easily inaccurate information can sway the masses. This really upsets me. I made the mistake of mentioning to my mom recently that we were going to co-sleep with the baby...... she didn't understand what I was telling her. She was like, "Oh, you mean having the cradle in the bedroom with you?" and I said, "No... the baby in bed with me." I smacked myself in the head and knew she was going to start voicing her unwelcome concerns about smothering the baby, etc. And boy did she! I calmly responded with, "If you read the research on those cases, Mom, you will understand more. Your view is based on fears voiced in the media. There is a lot more to it than that. It's a personal decision, so that's fine if you don't agree with it." She tried refuting it more but I quickly changed the subject.
I'm so tired of mainstream viewpoints about everything regarding pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding, and parenting! It's killing me! I still can't come to terms with the fact that anything we women do that is "natural" seems to be shunned these days. It makes me angry with the world. I'm super supportive of people making whatever decisions they want for their families, and I would never want to force my own opinion on them or seem judgmental in any way! I'm just a really big supporter of informed consent, and I get really upset when uninformed people voice their opinions to others and sway their views without proper knowledge. That seems to be all that I encounter these days... a complete lack of informed consent.