Personal Question (bathroom) - Page 2

[onlyzombiecat]

Originally Posted by mommy212 

So I know I am not the only one whose toddler loves to follow them in the bathroom, and not the only one whose period has begun again... So, what do you do with a little one in the bathroom while on your period? DS loves to help by handing me toilet paper, etc, and recently has begun to be more interested in what we are actually *doing* on the toilet, so he pays a lot of attention. I feel very awkward having him in there during that time though :/ What do you ladies do? Not allow them in the bathroom? Ignore it? Explain what's happening? 

I just answered dd's questions. I figured it was best to just be matter of fact and honest. She is going to have a period herself someday and it isn't something bad.

I don't know if I would have responded differently with a boy. I might have given less information.

[meemee]

Originally Posted by swd12422 
But really, does a 3-year-old need to see his mommy naked? It just seems like it's different with opposite-sex kids/parents rather than same-sex.

If you have a curious child like mine - the answer is yes. After ex and i separated i asked ex to let her see him naked till either of them were shy. 

i think by 5 he stopped changing in front of her. to date dd still shakes her head. mom what's teh big deal. daddy makes sure i dont see him naked. i understand he feels shy but what's the big deal about being naked. he just has what all other men have. 

dd to date that i know of has never shown curiousity outside the home. she has always shrugged whenever one talks about being naked, or sex or anything that is considered with 'raised eyebrows' in society. she was given answers to all her questions by her father and me.

i would have done nothing differently if instead of a dd i had a son. in fact i would make sure he knows even more. because he is not going to experience this, but his girlfriends and partners might. my mom was shocked when i was completely honest with my younger brother because i felt he needed to know for the same gf reason. 

now does that mean i would have given him a detailed answer. no. i would answer his questions just like i did dd's. i never went beyond the realm of dd's questions. her questions started at 2 and by 4 1/2 she had gotten all teh info she wanted. after 5 she got interested in exactly what sex was and so as she grows older she asks more about teh emotional aspect of periods and sex. 
 

[purplerose]

I am really grateful I grew up seeing my mother's body and knowing how it works(periods, hair, saggy boobs,...) I can't imagine a kid growing up being kept in the dark. Even a boy needs to see what's normal and certainly needs to know about periods for his future! I have 3 daughters but if one was a boy he'd be treated the same way, taught the same things the girls were. I have to wonder what's going through a person's head when their 9-10 year old daughter doesn't even know about periods, pads and tampons! I know people who have periods at that young an age!! I've always been glad I was one of those kids whose parents told me stuff and didn't hide it. Bodies and our cycles are nothing to hide. How embarassing it is to other kids who find out the hard way...

[childsplay]

Originally Posted by rubidoux 

I was curious about this, too.  I had everyone come in the stall with me until not that long ago.  And Milo's 7 1/2.  Also wondering if you shower in front of them and, if not, how do you take a shower if you're alone in the house with toddlers?  I have a few times allowed Milo and Augie to hang out together in the living room while I take the fastest shower ever with the door open.  But I wouldn't be doing that if it wasn't true that Augie always finds something to get in trouble with in the bathroom.  He's 2 1/4, btw.

I don't see any reason that you shouldn't draw a line regarding being alone in the bathroom.  I'm pretty sure my husband's done that.  I just can't wrap my mind around how I would make it happen.  Also, I wonder how it affects potty learning, especially for a first child who doesn't see a sibling using the bathroom.  Do you sit them down at some point and tell them how it works?

I don't shower in front of them, for years I showered before they got up, and still do most days, around 6:30-7ish, which was nice because it was so quiet. Once in a while one of them would be up early so I'd just let him/her snuggle in my bed and watch cartoons until I was finished.

As for the bathroom privacy thing, I'm not saying there's never been a time where I've quickly peed in the same bathroom that one of them (as toddlers) were brushing their teeth or having a bath. I just draw the line at going #2 or changing my tampon in front of them. My DD is 7 and knows about menstrual cycles because we talked about it, it's not nesessary for her to see it firsthand IMO.

I never really thought about the toilet training, I don't think the one or two times I peed on the toilet while they were in the bathroom would have had any influence on them, most likely they wouldn't even have noticed, especially if they were in the bath or doing their teeth. What I've learned (after toilet training 7 kids -not all mine) is the less I say the better. By the time they potty train they know how it works, they know when they're pooping, and when they're peeing, and they know the names of the places it's all coming from, they just have to practice putting it in the appropriate place.

[cinderella08]

I just carry about my business as usual.  DD is 2 and she doesn't understand of course yet, but she does call pads "diapers" and every.single.time I pee - even if I'm NOT on my period - she insists on finding me a "diaper" and handing it to me - lol