I've got a 2 week old son at home and a pair of really, really sore nipples. I'm nearing the end of my rope and I am thinking of ditching breastfeeding in favor of pumping and giving him a bottle.
Here's our situation...
Everytime DS latches on, the pain is excruciating. After a few sucks, it slows down into a dull pain that I can tolerate most of the time. When he comes off the nipple, sometimes the nipple is perfectly round, other times not. It still hurts either way. And my nipples sting terribly after he's done feeding. I cry my way through most of our nighttime feedings it hurts so bad.
It's gotten to the point that I dread having to feed him because I know what the pain is going to be like.
We've tried all kinds of holds- cross cradle, football, even the laid back nursing position. The latter produces the least pain for sure, but the other holds never feel very good.
We've been to see a lactation consultant yesterday who showed us laid back nursing. That was helpful and the pain was reduced. But once at home, I couldn't seem to reproduce what we had at her clinic, and breastfeeding was as painful as ever.
DH, who was once so supportive, is now pushing formula and is fed up with my attempts to breastfeed our son. He just says he can't see me in pain anymore (we had a three day labour with DS before transferring to a hospital for a c-section, so DH is a bit worn out). I don't even like to breastfeed in front of him anymore, because I know he'll just give me a big speech about quitting BFing.
At the hospital, they told us that I would have to breathe through breastfeeding pain like I did through contractions. They said that it always hurts right when the babies latch on. They also checked my latch and kept insisting nothing was wrong with it, and that I shouldn't break it even when it was painful (because, as they said, it looked fine).
I'm at the end of my rope. My husband wants me to switch to formula or pump and bottlefeed exclusively. I want so much to develop a good breastfeeding relationship with DS. I've been told it's painful in the first weeks, and that it's painful at latch-on everytime. Is that true? At this point I don't know what to do and I'm not sure how much pain is normal that I need to just push through, and how much is too much.
Also, are there major drawbacks to pumping and bottlefeeding? In that case, DS would still be getting breastmilk, not formula. Would love to hear people's feedback/experience with that.