On the internet, it can be really hard to make a call sometimes on how something that was written was intended:
- The internet lacks stuff like body-language, facial expressions and tone of voice, which are a BIG part of communication. This imperfection means that if someone SAYS words to you, you'll know if a person is being aggressive or not. With just the written words in the comments, it can happen that you read emotion into them that the poster never intended. Which apparently is the case here.
- Communication background. In my family / usual peer-group, we're fairly fact focused, straightforward and debate stuff a LOT and people are even perfectly fine with it if the argument gets a bit heated. In talking about a specific subject, we're about the facts and the information....NOT about the person behind it.
Other people have other communication backgrounds, that are more focused on the emotional context of a debate, a bit more indirect in their approach and more sensitive to the feelings of the people involved.
Either is valid. Either is fine. But when people from different communication backgrounds meet, unaware that they're using different "communication protocols", then things can get messy. The solution is, I believe, somewhere in the middle: be aware of the difference, straightforward people can tread a little more softly and people with an indirect communication approach can view the stuff the straightforward people say with a slightly more relaxed attitude.
I might have expressed a less than complimentary view of Ms Gaskin and given that as a reason why I'm uncomfortable with her, but I never said anything negative about Ilove4ever.
The only thing I DID say to Ilove4ever was, that if she hated doctors (which is a strong subjective view), then it would in all likelihood interfere with her ability to make valid objective decisions about doctors. Which is something that is pretty much true about everybody. I'm not qualified either to make objective statments about things, merely based on my feelings. For something to be objective, it has to be backed up by data and proof.