"I feel weird about breastfeeding." - Page 3

[Lovesmila]

Wow, what a snarky reaction from everybody. Let me clarify a few things.

1. I am a new member to mothering.com, not an existing member using a new username.

2. I am not "proud" of my comments (nor am I ashamed). They are just my opinions.

3rd, and most important: I have NEVER said that women are consciously trying to be aroused by breastfeeding, or that women who orgasm while breastfeeding are perverts. I completely resent anyone claiming that I said that, or even implied it. I said there is a MYTH by anti-breastfeeding advocates that women breastfeed because it is sexually arousing. That is so different from saying "I personally think that women breastfeed because it is sexually arousing" that I am amazed people have jumped to that conclusion.

4. Nor did I say anyone who has sexual feelings while breastfeeding should stop. (Good grief, I can't believe I have to clarify another thingI didn't say).

5. APtoddlermama - your tone is condescending. I am not "spanking" anyone, nor am I implying they should be ashamed. That's not even close to what was said and intended in my comment. I said orgasm during breastfeeding is not common. I stand by that. I did not say that orgasm during breastfeeding was impossible, nor did I say that anyone who does should be ashamed (or stop breastfeeding). Please stop trying to read anything else into my comments.

 

Originally Posted by APToddlerMama 

It turns out your wrong.  I haven't ever experienced it personally, but remember hearing about it for the first time in a freshman women's studies class and several times after including my hospital led breastfeeding course.  You probably think it is uncommon because people don't talk about it.  They are afraid that if they talk about it, they'll get spanked by someone like you saying they have their wires crossed and should essentially be ashamed of it. And if you feel so proud of what you're saying, why did you create a new account just to hop on here and call people perverts for experiencing something that is biologically normal?   

Originally Posted by Lovesmila 

Seriously, you've got your wires crossed. Orgasm during breastfeeding is NOT common. Yes, some women experience let down during orgasm, but there is a huge difference between that and finding the sensation of your baby breastfeeding so arousing that you orgasm. Orgasm can cause let down, not the other way around. The myth that women breastfeed because they find it sexually gratifying is one that has served anti-breastfeeding advocates very well, let's not perpetuate it.
 

[ein328]

You did write, "Yes, some women experience let down during orgasm, but there is a huge difference between that and finding the sensation of your baby breastfeeding so arousing that you orgasm." The key words are "finding the sensation of your baby breastfeeding so arousing." The way in which this phrase was worded makes it seem as though the women is choosing to be aroused, as opposed to involuntarily reacting to the sensation. I'm sorry it this was misread.
 

Originally Posted by Lovesmila 

Wow, what a snarky reaction from everybody. Let me clarify a few things.

1. I am a new member to mothering.com, not an existing member using a new username.

2. I am not "proud" of my comments (nor am I ashamed). They are just my opinions.

3rd, and most important: I have NEVER said that women are consciously trying to be aroused by breastfeeding, or that women who orgasm while breastfeeding are perverts. I completely resent anyone claiming that I said that, or even implied it. I said there is a MYTH by anti-breastfeeding advocates that women breastfeed because it is sexually arousing. That is so different from saying "I personally think that women breastfeed because it is sexually arousing" that I am amazed people have jumped to that conclusion.

4. Nor did I say anyone who has sexual feelings while breastfeeding should stop. (Good grief, I can't believe I have to clarify another thingI didn't say).

5. APtoddlermama - your tone is condescending. I am not "spanking" anyone, nor am I implying they should be ashamed. That's not even close to what was said and intended in my comment. I said orgasm during breastfeeding is not common. I stand by that. I did not say that orgasm during breastfeeding was impossible, nor did I say that anyone who does should be ashamed (or stop breastfeeding). Please stop trying to read anything else into my comments.

 

[ein328]

Also, starting off saying "Seriously, you've got your wires crossed," does not set the best tone. 

[Lovesmila]

I agree I could have started the post off better or perhaps worded it better and for that I apologise... If I had realised there was going to be this kind of reaction I would definitely have nitpicked over my semantics a little more.

I do think that if you are talking about women orgasming during breastfeeding, surely it is appropriate - and not implying perversion - to talk about arousal during breastfeeding. Surely someone has to feel arousal (involuntarily) before orgasm? Or is this an instantaneous orgasm without any sexual feeling beforehand? And if there is (as I assumed) arousal before orgasm, then my statement "finding the sensation of your baby breastfeeding so arousing that you orgasm" is perfectly accurate.

Edited by Lovesmila - 6/16/11 at 7:04pm

[sharita]

I didn't have time to read all replies but wanted to say that I felt "weird" about BF'ing back when I was young, didn't know anyone who had done it, and knew nothing about it.  We are taught today through hollywood and media that breasts are sexual.  I couldnt imagine it not being weird breastfeeding a baby when my breasts were sexual things for men ya know? 

Then, through WIC classes my second pregnancy, I was actually educated on breastfeeding and did a little reading of the handouts they gave and decided I would at least give it a try.  I mean, afterall, THAT was the real purpose for breasts (now that I was older and knew better, lol)  Turns out, nothing felt more natural in the world and it didn't feel "weird" at all and was soooo much easier for me and I have BF 5 babies since.

I know my reason was not being educated about breastfeeding.  I believe it is on the rise again but its not unusual for a new mom to not know anyone who has done it or have any exposure to it and therefore may not try it.  Wish I had been educated with my first or had someone who had done it.  I was asked by some girl in the waiting room at the Dr what bottles I used and when I told her I BF she responded "Ewww, why?"  Like it was gross or something, haha.  Im guessing her mother bottle fed, all her friends did and anyone else she ever was close with.  Just lack of information and exposure I suppose.