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When will she hold my hand?

post #1 of 9
6/8/11 at 7:12pm
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DD is 15 months old. She is pretty young so i am thinking this might be a developmental thing but she refuses to let me hold her hand. At what point will i be able to convince her to hold my hand when we are out walking? Is it something i have to encorage her to do a lot now or will she just do it when she is older? I'm mostly wondering because i often see moms walking with young toddlers down the sidewalk but we have to sick to the back yard because DD is all over the place and i fear she will dart into the road.

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post #2 of 9
6/8/11 at 7:33pm

I think it's probably different for each child.
My DD and DS started around 12 months.
I just hold my hand in front of them without saying anything and they latch on.
 

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post #3 of 9
6/8/11 at 10:11pm
It's a personality thing rather than an age thing. My 15 month old holds my hand but I remember my son at that age wouldn't and I would alway be worried he'd walk off the curb. Would a harness work do you think? Or maybe just put her in hoodies and hold on to the back.
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post #4 of 9
6/9/11 at 5:54am
Dd2. Just started at 16m. Once she realized that she can lead us around it's pretty non stop hand holding. Though when walking around outside she is still prone to letting go and making a quick dash. Big sis wants to put her on a leash.
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post #5 of 9
6/9/11 at 5:55am

DD never wanted to.  She will, but she doesn't want to.  So it's a carparks/busy streets/big crowds thing for us.

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post #6 of 9
6/9/11 at 6:20am

if it was a busy street i would just pick them up. both my kids hate hand holding, they will do it with each other or a friend for literally 2 seconds. but they don't enjoy it so i don't push it. plus try holding your arm up for a long period of time- it gets tired!

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post #7 of 9
6/10/11 at 11:39pm

DS often wouldn't hold my hand at first, probably at that age.  If we were in a situation I felt he needed to be holding my hand, I'd keep taking his hand over and over, and one thing that often helped was to tell him, "I'll run with you!"  And then I would, and he usually liked that enough to hold my hand for a while.  If it was getting unsafe, I just picked him up.

 

I think the realization that he could drag us around places by holding our hands was a big help to us, too.

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post #8 of 9
6/12/11 at 2:55pm

My son's only really getting into it now, and he's 20 months old.  We have been going out walking together almost everyday since he turned a year old, but he used to only consent to hold my hand while crossing streets, and half the time I'd end up picking him up anyway.  Now if I ask for his hand, he'll almost always give it to me even if we're just trotting down the sidewalk... and sometimes if I don't ask for his, he'll demand mine, which is pretty sweet.

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post #9 of 9
6/12/11 at 5:43pm

yeahthat.gif DS is 26 mos, and he just really has gotten into hand-holding in the last few months. He's walked well since he was 12 mos, but he would generally prefer to be carried/worn when we were out in crowds, streets, etc until very recently. Now he likes to walk and hold hands (especially with two people). Previous to 20 months if I tried to hold his hand, it was just me holding his limp hand/wrist and pulling. He didn't get the point at all.

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