DS will be 3.5 when babe is born and I am concerned about how he will transition from being an only to being a big brother. He is not what I would call generous by nature, although I also recognize that the selfishness we're dealing with at the moment is also part of his developmental stage. I want to be sensitive to his needs, but obviously some things are just going to have to change.
Two examples in particular:
We have a glider rocker in his room. We really only sit in it to read stories sometimes before bed (although stories are more often IN bed now) but it's a fairly big part of his room. I don't want to buy another glider rocker but I'm worried he'll resent it if we take the rocker out of his room and put it in the baby's room. I thought about moving it out to the living room (so more of a common area) but I like how the living room is set up now without it and it will be much more convenient at night in the baby's room. What's the best way to approach this?
The other thing is seating at the table. Right now DH & I sit opposite each other and DS sits at the end of the table between us. As the other end of the table is pushed up against a wall (so from the wall it's: Empty seat, DH, DS on the end, Me, Empty seat), it's been most convenient for cleaning to have the messiest eater on the end, but again, that means eventually the baby will be taking over DS's spot. Should we try to shift DS around beside DH sooner rather than later, or can anyone suggest a seating arrangement? I know it's way early to be worrying about this, but I can't stop fretting over it for some reason.
I really don't know how to approach the whole thing, so if anyone has any tips or book suggestions please let me know. It's my biggest stressor of this pregnancy so far!