Hi. I'm pretty sure I'm hs/us-ing an Aspie. I first had my "light bulb moment" when he was about 3 years old. He's now 7 and we just "finished" first grade last month. We're with a parent choice charter so I guess I'm nominally unschooling by their standards, and doing whatever works best by my standards.
He went to a few months of K. It was half-way through the year and I was at a point in my life where I really just couldn't handle his obsessions and need for structure. That turned out to be a wonderful choice and the ps school(and teacher) were awesome! Then, we moved and for 1st grade he got put into a classroom of 33 kids, one teacher, and lots of standing in line! Not good! A phobic issue where he wouldn't go to the bathroom all day because he'd have to walk past a certain child's classroom door..etc. Homework battles every night. Lots of meltdowns when he got home from school. Soooo, after about 6 weeks I took him out and the rest of the year has been good.
That said, some weeks I find it enormously difficult to handle his needs. And some weeks it is the most amazing thing to see how beautifully he's growing. I find some "structure" is good or else he will play video games for 8 hours straight. Some Aspie's (at least mine does) have difficulty with self-regulation and obsessions. So, I have to help him learn to listen to his body and brain. I regulate things to certain extent, but I was raised as a homeschooler so I don't know how "regulated" I really am! lol He can read above grade level but handwriting is horrendous. He is amazing at math, can use an abacus, but he can't tie shoes or button yet. Augh! Welcome to my world-lol! :)
My advice for myself is: don't limit yourself to certain curriculum/label/hs-ing style/discipline style...just keep things fluid and keeping loving and talking and explaining and also, if you can find a few people who support you, keep 'em around! :) including but not limited to MDC, everyone's so great here!