So my DD is almost 4. I had her at a children's dentist who advised me that she needed two small fillings on two of her front teeth (one on each tooth). She also said that DD had some brown "pre-decay" spots that if I were to put DD under GA for treatment, she would go ahead and drill and fill, but if I wanted to treat her in the office for the two cavities, she would leave those spots alone and just watch them.
About maybe 4 weeks after that, I had DD at a different children's dentist (wasn't happy with previous dentist due to some issues with her treatment recommendations for my 5 YO DS). The new dentist says the first two cavities need filled. Then she goes on to say there are three more spots that need filled. She says they are "sticky spots". Then there are two more spots she sees that may or may not be cavities at this point, and they will use some sort of laser thing to determine if there is indeed weakening of the enamel in those spots. If the laser reads 20 or higher, they want to drill and fill those spots. The laser thing was giving readings out when not even in DDs mouth and beeping like crazy - it didn't really seem that reliable. Finally, a different hygienist came in and got the thing to allegedly read, and got a 36 for one and an 80 for the other.
So. Now the new dentist wants to do 7 fillings, which is over $1000 in dental work :-(
It's not really the money I am concerned with (we have dental insurance), but it really seems excessive to me.
I'm not sure which opinion I like least - the suggestion to drill and fill "pre-decay" spots, or the opinion that these spots are actually full-out cavities.
I am of the belief that once a spot is drilled / filled, that's the end of the line - the tooth can't do any healing there. The work is stressful and possibly a bit traumatic for a 4 YO, not to mention expensive. If it's necessary, I can deal with the cost, but this just feels like too much.
I also understand preventative care and the mainstream dental opinion that if you don't fill cavities, decay will get worse, spread, etc. But I personally believe that "sticky" spots can be remineralized / healed.
So I've been working on a tooth healing procedure for DD.
My original plan was to work on remineralization for 3 - 6 months, take DD in at that point, then request they re-evaluate at that point and drill / fill whatever seems to need it at that point. Either the teeth will be better in that time, or they won't.
But now I am second-guessing myself and feeling like maybe I should just let the dentist fill what she wants to fill...IDK. I mean, what if the remineralization doesn't do any good? I don't think her teeth will be in any emergency state if I wait the six months, as I am monitoring her, she's having no pain, I don't see any more spots / worsening of existing spots, etc. But for some reason it's really bothering me.
Do you think fillings are necessary or a good idea for "sticky" spots? What have you done in a position like this? Please help me evaluate this with a bit more of a level head! (Thanks so much if you read this far...)