She's an odd grandma. On one hand she devoted an entire room in her house to the kids but will buy what she wants regardless of any restrictions we have. (no character toys, battery toys etc ). She calls to say come visit then when we get there has a puss on her face and acts like she doesn't have the will to live. things like this.
She also never ever under any circumstances apologizes. It has been a real sore spot with me for my entire life.
My dad is attached to her at the hip and what she says goes. Period.
Today my almost 4yr old son fell asleep on the way there and woke up too early and was crabby. His weapon of choice right now is to refuse to eat. He will yell, run away, tantrum whatever. I have learned to just collect him, dragging if need be to his chair and calmly that it is time to eat. So he's fussing and she's grumbling within earshot what happened to make him think he's the boss, and blah, blah. She goes to give him a napkin and he yells that he doesn't want lunch. She then, to my horror, leans down, gets in his face and hisses at him "then you'll be a weak little boy!!"
I grabbed her and told her not to speak to him like that. Ever. Minutes pass and my sad, confused son asks " why did grandma make a mean face at me?". I say I don't know why but she should apologize. Well that did it. She was snarling and yelling and I yelled right back. Mainly because she made it about her, not my son. That he throws fits because I'm mean to her. Like, really? Was she joking?
I told her again to apologize. She refused. I packed up and left making it very clear that she would not see her grandkids if shevrefused to apologize. I sent an email when I got home saying the same thing. She put me through this stuff and said mean judgementel things to me my entirevlife but she will not do it to my kids.
Guess this is just a vent but I feel sick over it.