Summer IVF Thread - Let the Sun shine through all of usl!!! - Page 36

[gellybeangrl]

Belly~ Thanks for the information...going off of what it says today is the day the blast is breaking out of it's shell...and tomorrow it will start implanting. I am having some stomach issues...not sure what that is all about. How are you feeling? Any more symptoms?

Renavoo~ I didn't sleep so well last night either. I'm almost asleep as I type this...but I think it's because I haven't been sleeping well the last few nights. My back is still a bit sore, and my abdomen feels like I have been doing lots and lots of sit-ups. Here is hoping that AF is not to bad this time around.

Aurleigh~ Good luck with finding the donor. Did you look at the option of an open or willing to be known donor?

AFM~ I'm back to work...today was pretty easy...tomorrow is Friday so hopefully it won't be to crazy and then I'm off on Sat. and Sunday. So, maybe everthing will go well.

[BellyBean]

April, I am sorry your family was so insensitive today.  People who have never been through, or known anyone that has been through IF, just think  people get pregnant at the drop of a hat!  It can be very frustrating and hurtful.

Aura, that is a lot to take in...  If you decide to tell him/her/them, I am sure you will know the right time when it comes along.  My cousin was conceived with donor sperm.  I am not sure if she knows (my mom told me, and at that time she didn't know).  She is a few years older than me, so a full grown adult.  I do think it would be hurtful (like in the case of my cousin) that everyone around the person knows except them.  But I think if I was in the situation, my first instinct would be not to tell the child or anyone else, like we did with IVF.  Of course it deserves a lot of consideration either way, but I am sure you will make the right decision.  And your right, you don't have to decide today!  I am happy you found a donor you both like!

Gelly, are you going as crazy as me!  I feel like I am in a time warp where time is standing completely still :)

Blue, rcr, Taxlady, Keira, Kewpie, and Silver hope all is going well with you guys!

[auraleigh]

april- i just got so mad reading about your husband's family!  i can understand sometimes people nudge you and ask "so... when are you having a kid" (we get it all the time)... but to not get the hint and keep pushing! i commend your self restraint.  you are a strong woman!

[renavoo]

Aura, wow, what an additional stress to have to deal with!! I don't know what I would do either. I was thinking of what I would want to know, if i was a child who had a sperm donor father and i think that I would want to know but that's NOW. I go back and forth too. haha on some level, I would think it would almost be easier if you didn't know whether the sperm came from your husband or from the donor!! Good luck in making this difficult decision. I can't wait for you to get your BFP though! Hopefully, this is the cycle!

April, UGH!! That is so incredibly rude! i mean, what is it that makes people think they can personally comment on something so private?!  Do they think you or your DH answer to them? I'm so sorry that you have to go through this! It's incredibly aggravating! Sometimes I feel like many people in this world are missing a sensitivity chip as I think Jennifer Aniston put it.

AFM, AF is coming full force. Aura, AF is a bit weird...started off with a lot of clots. Big ones too-at least bigger than any other cycle! I think now, I'm getting into the flow (of things...hehe). I'm still really really down about this cycle not working and about having to wait a month and a half for the FET to happen but i'm with you about just pushing the grief aside and saying "Bring it on!) I should be starting BCPs on Monday for a couple of weeks, wait for a bleed and a positive US/bw and then, according to my scheduling, using vaginal estrogen for about 2.5 weeks. Once that's done, it'll be progesterone time for 6 days and FET! So hopefully, each step of the process goes well and we can be on our way to a BFP. If this doesn't work out, though, I'm going to be heartbroken. I will deal with it when I get there but I already know that I'm going to be so sad. It's not even the right way to look at things, I know, but i can't help it.

[blueyezz4]

Can't talk long b/c i'm running off to work, but real quick....

April - i hope your appt today with your RE goes well!! Keep us posted.  Way to have the will power to keep your mouth shut.  I know it is hard and sometimes you just want to scream.  Sometime when i get a comment like that I will just say "well, sometimes it is easier for some than others" and leave it like that.

Belly - how are you feeling???  fingers crossed!! When is your beta again???

Renavoo - 's my friend!!!  Keep your head up girl.... it will happen.  Don't worry.. I have to talk myself into it at times too!!

Aura - In my opinion I would have to tell my child if i used donor sperm/egg or even w/ adoption b/c if you think about it, as the child gets older and could have some/any kinda of health condition or medical history needed it would have to come up b/c technically they wouldn't have the same hereditary health conditions from your husbands side at all. It would be a whole different set of genes from the biological father/grandparents which may have health conditions you could be unaware of... even simple things like asthma or allergies.  Good luck to you!  To me every child is a miracle so if you and your DH plan to love them like your own no matter what then it really doesn't matter... but that is my opinion. 

Gelly - glad your day back went well.  Fingers crossed for you too!! When is your beta again?

[BellyBean]

Hi all, I have to go to work today so I'll try to keep this short!

Renavoo, did your RE say why he thinks this cycle didn't work? October will be your month!

AFM, no "real" symptoms here, just a lot of mental ones :)  Hopefully time will go a little quicker at work today!  I am now 3dp5dt, I really think I'll POAS Sunday, I know it's crazy, but I am dying to already!  My beta is officially next Thursday, September 1st.  I am thinking by Tuesday (7dp5dt) I should have a positive hpt, I would really be bummed if it was another BFN.

[Keria]

Belly I'm a bad influence but POAS on sunday I got my BFP 10 dp retrieval, even though I think I read somewhere that FETs take a little longer  to get the HCG going.

Renavoo Hugs take care of yourself drink some wine ( if you drink) and eat some chocolate.

Aura We thought at first we were not going to tell too. Then we thought what if our kid found out later on that he's not biologically DH's he/she would hate us for lying to him/her all her life. So if the IUIs had worked we were going to tell them. And no particularly tell the world, but not keep it a secret either, I figured there were not that many situations in life where we would get asked if the kids are biologically ours. But people are nosy I get asked all the time if we used fertility drugs because we are having twins.

Blue I'm happy you get to try again are you doing a different protocol?

AFM Babies and I are doing great we are officially in the second trimester. I can't believe it went by so fast, I've been able to relax and actually see myself holding my two sweet little babes in feb.

[renavoo]

Hi ladies!

I just wanted to give you guys a follow up. Spoke with my RE this morning...he's a nice guy. Gave me a call between procedures at my request because I wanted a follow up report. He thinks that generally, it didn't work this time because there were probably some chromosomal abnormalities with the embies. (seems like a pat answer-it's not like we can check that out!) but he did say that my frozen embies were better quality than the ones that we transferred. So he's optimistic about the FET. I'm hoping that it works out but I am being cautious. I don't know what I will do with another BFN. I'm just so tired of TTCing! But whatever...we'll hit that wall when we get to it!

Keria, YAH! are you going to find out the sex of your babies? I can't wait to hear more about how you and the little ones are doing! I'm really surprised that people would have the audacity to ask you about taking fertility drugs! What do you end up saying to them?

Belly, keep us updated on the test on Sunday! haha I'm also really really impatient for you! I can't wait to hear about the BFP!!

Thanks ladies for cheering me up! You guys are the best! Big hugs all around!

[Keria]

Yes we are finding out,  in a month I think.  Actually I "know" baby A is a girl as soon as I saw the little profile on our last scan I just felt like she  was a girl, which is funny because I usually don't believe in stuff like that. Baby B hates ultrasounds and always hides from the cameras so we usually just take a quick peak to take the measurements and that's it, so I have no clue on that one.

When people ask about the drugs I usually just till my head to the side and pretend that I have no idea what they are talking about, it's not like it's a secret or anything but it's not anyone's business. I also get asked if they were an accident, which makes me laugh more than anything.

[BellyBean]

Keira, Yay on the second trimester!  Did you say you had a doppler?  Isn't it great to hear their hearts beating (even if it's only at the doctor)  I am always worried people would ask if my (potential) twins are from fertility treatments and I am not sure what I would say yet.  It really makes me nervous just thinking about the conversation!  My friends are really nosy and all super fertile so I know it would come up!  (especially with my ectopic in March)

Renavoo, I typed this big long thing this morning (more as an AFM) but also to you.  It was research I did for myself that I thought would apply to everyone.  I read online that 50% of blasts aren't chromosomally normal, and an even larger percentage of day 3 embryos.  I asked my RE and embryologist when I had my transfer and they didn't have an exact number since my clinic is on the small side and they don’t have a large enough sample size, but they said when they do PGD they are often surprised on how many aren't normal.  It made me think if I ever had to do another fresh cycle I would probably pay the $5000 for testing because it might be less expensive than all the FET/IVF transfers with abnormal embies that result in a BFN.  It would also make me feel more comfortable/confident doing a single embryo transfer.

AFM, I have been feeling sick since I woke up, like I might throw up at any moment.  I didn't have much morning sickness last time and I am trying not to read too much into it.  Like I said before, I always have a lot of stomach issues...so I doubt it's anything related to pregancy, but it sure has me thinking a little. 

[aprilmom]

Keria -  on moving into the second trimester!! 

 

BellyBean - sounds like pretty exciting symptoms to me!! I will keep my fingers crossed for you

AFM - well I am in tears of joy.  Our doctor does not know what went wrong.  We went over everything and he said there is no reason that 5 of my 7 eggs should have been immature.  He does want us to try again because he really thinks he can get us pregnant - so much so he has offered his services at no charge!!  We will still have to get meds (which he said he can give us some but not all) and he can't waive the hospital bill... but WOW I was not expecting that and am overwhelmed that we are blessed to have such an amazing doctor!  So, we are going to give it another try.  Once I get my period, I will start my BCP.  I did ask him about donor eggs and he said he is not at that point yet, but if we have the same results this time he would reccomend that...

[BellyBean]

April, WOW!!!  That is very exciting and wonderful news!!!!!!   I am so so so excited for you!  YAY!!!!!!!!

[gellybeangrl]

April~ Yeah! I am so excited for you! That IS wonderful of your Doctor...

Blue~ I go for my Beta on November 2nd...a week from today.

Belly~ I to have stomach issues...I'm on Metformin...and it really messes with my digestive tract...anyway. I have not been sleeping well all week...last night I woke up at 2:30am...went to the bathroom and then tossed and turned till about 4am. I then started feeling a little queasy so I got up and drank some warm milk and a gram cracker and went back up to bed...laid there for another 45min and I felt like I was going to puke...it finally passed and I was able to fall asleep around 5am, only to have to get up at 6:30am to get ready to go to work. Here is hoping all this stuff means something for both of us.

Keira~ Yeah for getting to the 2nd trimester! And I would tell those people...nonya...none of your buisness!

Renavoo~ Hugs....! You won't be ttc'ing forever...your will get your BFP! and soon!!!

AFM~ Nothing much going on here...over-obsessing about symptoms, twinges, feelings...etc. I'm just trying to get through these next few days...well the next 7 days...lol! I really , really hate this time of the TWW.   

[renavoo]

April, YAH!!! I'm so happy for you. It sounds like your RE is a great one and really interested in helping his patients. I'm so excited for you. So when do you start stimming?

Belly, thanks for the research! It absolutely makes sense and I'm wondering myself if we should do that genetic procedure if we need a fresh cycle. The thing is as 5 more cycles are covered under this plan, it may just be worth it to ride it out. I'm really happy with my RE too because he promised that should we need a fresh cycle again, he won't make me stay down there for 2 weeks. I only have 5 vacation days left, after all!!

Belly and Gelly, I'm sorry about the nausea and queasiness (although I'm hopeful for you two!) I typically have a little queasiness too because I feel like i have a weak tummy. I definitely try to drink some milk. (HEEH I also like chocolate for when I feel queasy )

Anyway, Gelly, are you going to POAS too? If so, when?

AFM, Absolutely nothing going on. I'm just waiting and waiting and waiting. haha We're actually more concerned with preparing for Hurricane Irene here in NYC and I'm on the edge of the evacuation zone. DH and I have decided to brave the storm so hopefully, it continues to die in strength in the next few hours. As DH and I live in a high rise building and are pretty high up (17th floor) apparently, we're in even more danger. I think it'll be ok though. Stay safe, anyone else in the path of the hurricane!!

[blueyezz4]

Renavoo- Be safe with this storm!!! That would be scary being on the 17th floor when a huge storm comes in.  I initially thought maybe you could go to the lobby but then you have all of those floors above you and that is kinda scary.  Do you have any friends that have a house that you could crash in their guest bedroom for the weekend maybe? I hope and pray that it isn't as bad as they are saying it is going to be.  My RE said the same thing about our first IVF that it probably was chromosome related. Fingers crossed for you that this next time is your time.

Gelly & Belly - Yay, for the symptoms!!!!  Lets hope it is BFP symptom for sure!!!!  So are you going to POAS early?   Thanks for the beta info... i'll try to update it.  Work/life has been busy so i haven't been the best thread keeper.

April - AWESOME news!!!! Did you happen to ask your RE if maybe they waited too long to trigger and that made the too mature?  I think that might have been part of our problem.  I remember looking at the size of my follies and thinking "I'm surprised they aren't triggering me now".

Keria - Yay for the 2nd tri coming!!!! 

Lyndi - How are you doing?  How was your vacation? Hope you are well.

Laggie - How are you??  What is going on w/ your next cycle?  Still waiting?

Hope everyone is well... I've been a kinda slacking as the thread keeper, so let me know if I need to update you on the first page.  Hope everyone has a good weekend and stay safe if you are in the storms path!!

AFM - Just got a call from Freedom Pharmacy this morning to order my meds!!! Ugggh!!  I just am not looking forward to more bills!!!   I'm going to wait as long as I can before I order them and keep hoping for a huge miracle that maybe we will get a BFP on our own this month, so we don't have to order them.  A girl can dream, right!!!  Sure wish we all could just get pregnant on our own like others.  Some people don't know how good they actually have it that they need to use birth control.

[BellyBean]

Blue, I'll be praying for a miracle month for you!  I just read on another forum that taking antihistamines 3 nights starting at 3dpo has helped some people with unexplained fertility...it's worth a shot! 

Renavoo, be careful!!!!

Gelly, how are you doing?  Any new symptoms?

AFM, I was very close to POAS this morning (4dp5dt), but somehow resisted.  Still feeling sick today and a little crampy.  I have been driving myself crazy wondering if it worked or not.  The 2ww is so much harder than waiting 8 weeks between cycles!!!!  I will definitely POAS tomorrow morning :)  I have a few dollar store tests left over from my cycle in June!

[blueyezz4]

Belly - did you tell me when you beta was?  I couldn't find it.  I was trying to update the first page so let me know when you get a chance.  Interesting fact about the antihistamines.  I take a allergy (prescription) pill every night and have for probably 15 yrs so I don't think it would make a difference for me.  I love that kind of info though!! You always have such great facts and info to share!!  Love it!!!  Fingers crossed for your symptoms.  Sound like they are pretty strong!! 

[aprilmom]

Originally Posted by blueyezz4 

April - AWESOME news!!!! Did you happen to ask your RE if maybe they waited too long to trigger and that made the too mature?  I think that might have been part of our problem.  I remember looking at the size of my follies and thinking "I'm surprised they aren't triggering me now".

AFM - Just got a call from Freedom Pharmacy this morning to order my meds!!! Ugggh!!  I just am not looking forward to more bills!!!   I'm going to wait as long as I can before I order them and keep hoping for a huge miracle that maybe we will get a BFP on our own this month, so we don't have to order them.  A girl can dream, right!!!  Sure wish we all could just get pregnant on our own like others.  Some people don't know how good they actually have it that they need to use birth control.

He actually thinks we maybe should have waited another day.  But he also said if they had waited the two that were mature might have been too old... so who knows 

I hope you get your BFP this month and don't need to pay for the medicine either!!
 

[auraleigh]

ladies, i'll do personals later, but just doing a storm check in.  we're in central jersey, about 30 min west of the evacuation zones.  dh and i are just curled up on the couch in pajamas watching news coverage, waiting for the insanity to come later.  hope everyone else is doing okay! i hope no one had  a transfer scheduled for this weekend!

[BellyBean]

Blue, my beta is Thursday September 1st.  I am just not sure at all what's going on in there...some minutes I think it must be twins and then I think it's a BFN.  Bummer about the allergy medicine, it sounded like it was worth a try! ;)

Aura, stay safe!  Good point about transfers, that would suck to have to wait for a FET because of the storm.  What would they do about ER's though...maybe try to coast another day? 

April, will you be doing a different protocol this next time?