Thanks for the vote of confidence, lovingmommyhood!
Originally Posted by MusicianDad
There are plenty of people out there who think it's perfectly ok to ogle a teen, and the teen (usually female) has a right to say "some weird guy is staring/taking pictures/acting weird to me, how can I make it stop?" And be heard, and believed. No matter what she/he is wearing or how they are acting.
I also wanted to respond directly to this part of your comment. According to the OP, the teen's mom felt that the man wasn't behaving in any way that her daughter would have objected to, had he been a cute boy.
Of course, the OP also explained that the other people at the pool backed up this grandpa and verified that he wasn't behaving at all inappropriately, and I have a feeling that, had a 40 or 50-plus man been behaving like a stereotypical turned-on teenaged boy (I know that many teenaged boys can be turned on without acting on it; I'm specifically talking about the stereotype of "young men on the make"), this would have stood out to everyone at the pool.
But, to get back to my point, whatever this girl thought this man was doing, apparently it did not constitute what even she would call true sexual harassment, because it would have been okay if the so called perpetrator had been young and cute! Surely we're not okay with being raped, harassed, or treated in any way disrespectfully, just so long as the criminal is a perfect ten!
Do we really have a right to dictate who can feel sexual arousal? -- and I'm not saying that it sounds like this man was aroused, it sounds like his attention was focused on his grandkids and he didn't even notice the girl 'til she forced her presence onto his radar by calling the police, just that it seems rather unfair to act like these feelings are "privileges" that are only afforded to the young and cute. Anyone else experiencing a normal reaction to sexual stimuli is "some weird guy."
I should clarify that I don't see it as a normal reaction, ever, to act aggressively or disrespectfully toward someone; I just do think it's normal that sometimes there are things that can turn us on, and maybe some of us are pretty adept at hiding it, but an aroused man in swimming trunks may stand out, even if he has no interest in actually pursuing the person whose near-naked body stimulated his state of arousal.