I need answers to my questions asap. My daughter is 20 yo and expecting her first baby soon. She is 32 weeks. Here is the problem...: She was addicted to crack before she conceived. She never believed she could ever even get pregnant because her periods had always been so irregular, she'd not used protection so often and never gotten pregnant before. Anyway... she has not stopped using crack even up to this point. The father of the baby totally rejected her upon learning of the pregnancy and wants nothing to do with the baby. She was thrilled to find out she was pregnant and for the first 3-4 months really tried very hard to do everything right, took her vitamins... even long before she even got pregnant, because she had been sick and wanted to feel better. She stopped smoking, but kept using marijuana and then it seemed like around 5 months, she went on a crack binge and has not stopped. She will go for 3-4 days and not use, but then those same old bad people come around... (they will NOT leave her alone) and she leaves with them, only to come back home crying, sick, vomiting, tired both from the crack and her disappointment in herself. We, her parents, are at a total loss as how to help her. She absolutely FEARS her baby being taken away from her at the hospital. She cannot top on the one hand, but wants her baby soooo much.
She also is A negative blood type and gets the Rhogam shot today and has sickle cell trait. So cord blood will definitely be taken in the hospital.
I have studied and studied and studied on the internet and feel pretty informed about what the actual affects are on the fetus and outcomes for development during early and later childhood on kids exposed to crack cocaine in utero. BUT... what I am not informed about is what the doctors and CPS do to young women who are addicted who test positive for marijuana and/or other drugs, such as crack cocaine. Are the babies taken from the mother's at birth in the hospitals? Why? And what happens next? Are the babies then placed in foster care to bond with strangers, leaving the mother out of the baby's life then? What about we the grandparent's?
Isn't it possible that a young woman who badly needs help could go into treatment WITH her baby with her? Is it really good for baby or Mom to separate them? I don't get how that accomplishes anything good for family unity and preservation.
I would like to hear from folks on North Carolina CPS procedure should my daughter and/or her baby be reported to them. I would also like to hear... what can we the grandparents be doing NOW to help her stop, to intervene.. if that's even possible. I would also like to know if grandparent's here in NC can have the baby placed with them if she is ordered into rehab... which I and she KNOW she needs.
I know she wants help and we have come very close to having her committed into rehab. There have also been times when we have had her right inside an intake for drug rehab and then she refused to go in. It has been a huge struggle and I need help, for her, for the baby and for our whole family, so that we do NOT LOSE our grandchild to strangers at birth.
Thanks for listening!