Originally Posted by APToddlerMama
I disagree with other posters who are saying this is not sexual in nature. I have worked professionally with kids who have been sexually abused, and who then behave in this way and it most certainly IS sexual. However, I don't know your daughter or her history, so it is impossible for me to know if it is sexual or not. My primary concern would be finding out if she has been sexually abused because her behavior is a huge red flag. If I was reasonably sure that wasn't the case, I would start looking at it instead from a perspective of her needing to learn good boundaries (which she needs to learn regardless). I'd have some blunt conversations with her about what is and is not appropriate with the camp counselors, pediatrician, and people in general. Good luck.
I might get flamed, however I think were you work or have worked is making you see a natural behavior and taking a wrong leap.
You work with kids that have abnormal behavior so you see the worse and extreme. Yes, overly flirtatious kids could be abuse victims but that does not mean all kids are. The OP could list two situation in 1 years time or so. This does not concern me. Some kids are more out going and more skillful at getting peoples attention. Heck, my 13 dd had a 5 year old "flirt" with her half the morning. Why, he new giving those eyes, smiling, and game playing got him a lot more attention. Yes, these behaviors in a 10, 15, on up age person would have been more sex.
Kids that are sexually abuse can do a lot of behaviors that are with in the normal behaviors of childhood. It is the total behavior, and the OP has not sad anything other than her child is flirtatious, which she saw the same behavior from other same age kids the next day.
The only way, you can leap to it being sexual is that it, IMO, in some ways a part of learning sexual behaviors. Reality OP 8 year old is going to grow up and become sexual. But that does not mean this fliratious behavior means she is acting abnormally sexual. Yes, it needs to be guided however it does not mean abuse.
Flirting can occur between two people of the same sex. I would not be surprised if the OP stepped back there is "flirting" between her dd and other girls that she is intrested in having relationships with. Flirting being defined as giving compliments, giggling, flattering telling girls she likes there bows or shirt, friendly teasing, imitating, preening (doing other girls hair), sitting close, she might also be starting to dress up to get her "friend" attention also. It is only when it is done to/with the opposite sex do people get nervous and worried.
Two girls spend time laughing and doing each other hair is no big deal. Make one of them a boy then somehow it becomes sexual --- I would not be surprise if the OP stepped back she will see simular behaviors tried if a new councilor but female counclor was presented. Her dd would use the behaviors that she has found most effective in the past then try new ones.