Hi ladies! I'm a really-newbie, both here in the forums and in terms of Mommy-dom. My partner and I have been together for 4 years. I'm 31 and she's 32. The baby bug bit her first, some time last year. After some loving, teasing encouragement from her about how wonderful it would be if I was to bear our child, I eventually began to agree. It was a bizarre realization for me, because I've always been dead-set against having my own children. I always wanted to adopt, if I could even imagine having kids. I realize that was almost certainly because my adult long-term relationships had been with men, and there was no way I wanted to have children with any of them. Once I decided to live openly as I've always truly wanted, came out to my whole family, and found a wonderful, loving relationship, the thought of motherhood is very appealing. So appealing, that it's getting harder and harder for us to wait! :)
As of now, we are renting a house, hoping to buy our own house in the late winter/spring. I have begun to research, but I know that I'm sooo at the beginning. In a few days, I'll start charting my basal temp, I've registered with a nearby sperm bank, I've looked into what clinics work with both the sperm bank and my health insurance, I'm reading books on lesbian pregnancy, and I've started to make changes to my diet, which was already pretty darn healthy. I need to get into the doctor to have things checked out, make sure my parts are all working as they should. And then the thousand next steps that follow after that...!
Of course, I'm hoping for best-case scenario, i.e. everything is working great, but I can't help think that might be naive. You hear so many stories about the tons of tries it took to get pregnant, or all the health problems that can get in the way. Even reading in this site has made me more apprehensive. But then, I also have a dear friend, (who recommended the sperm bank to me, btw), who got pregnant at her 2nd insemination.
So obviously, we are waiting because I'm at the very beginning of this process. Still just trying to take in all the information, make lists of what needs to be done, plan how we can get it done. I'm excited, and of course, just hoping it all goes well. Any advice would be appreciated, and if I post with "dumb" questions or don't know all the lingo, please forgive me! ;)
I am thankful that there are forums like this. Ahhh, internet chat. Without this, I would be bothering the hell out of my 2 friends who went through this process!! So thanks in advance!